Families & Friends Of Addicts Support Group
Addiction affects more than just the individual. This community is dedicated to the families and friends of individuals suffering from any form of addiction. Mental health professionals are increasingly considering alcoholism and addiction as diseases that flourish in and are enabled by family systems. Family members react to the addicted person with particular behavioral...
Ex bf keeps on sending me greetings on special occasions. We did not have any formal closure. All he does is confuse me. I learned from a common friend he has been seeing someone new for quite some time now. But he never stops to occasionally make his presence felt. He sent me flowers on my bday last oct/! By the way he is supposed to be in recovery for two years now. I just wanna be mad and tell him to leave me alone, but I am not sure if that would help. How to gain the true peace I long for? I'm alwaysbtorn between understanding him and just be direct in rejecting him. Part of me still hopes but gosh it's been two years I wanna stop stopping my life for him. What to do?
My guess about that is he knows you have always been a rock solid supporter of him and he knows he is still messed up.
Whoever he is involved with now will most likely not last and he probably knows that.
He may say he is sober but he may just not be drinking but still takes various pills. I know my X was doing that and still is.
They seem like dual personalities -constantly being torn between their addict side and the good in them (which keeps getting more and more consumed by their addict side). Does that make sense to you?
most important though is to keep yourself going in another more stable and better direction for you.
My X has 0 contact with me ---more like he is already deceased!
Maybe I am like that to him too??
Extremely difficult also- but I am moving forward keeping myself as healthy and good to myself as possible with the hope of finding someone better for me regardless of what my X does or does not do.
or the third option is he is just a nice person and doesn't want you to feel alone. See what happens when it gets back to him that you have been seeing someone quite a while...
meanwhile, go forward. Enjoy the flowers, and forget about him.
I think he's a narcissist and keeps you around. Seems he has moved on and keeping you in the hook.
I would move on too. Two years is a long time. Let go
It really is a perfectly reasonable thing to break off contact with an ex. You don't have to feel bad about it! The key is - cut him off with as little drama as possible. Good luck!