Families & Friends Of Addicts Support Group
Addiction affects more than just the individual. This community is dedicated to the families and friends of individuals suffering from any form of addiction. Mental health professionals are increasingly considering alcoholism and addiction as diseases that flourish in and are enabled by family systems. Family members react to the addicted person with particular behavioral...
I guess I'm here looking for some validation for my husband's drinking problem and my feelings about this..We've been married for 10 years and have 3 kids ages 9, 6, & 2. Basically he drinks every day until he passes out on the couch in front of all of us. He says he is tired from gettting up at 3:30 to be at work at 5 but he has also drank at leat 16 beers or so. He's drinking tall. high alcohol content, cheap beer. He doesn't hardly ever eat dinner with us becuase he's drinking and eats before he's ready to pass out. He talks crazy stuff to our kids all the time and although it all seemed fun at first, the other night my 9 yr. old son asked his Dad what was wrong and what happened and that he sounded like he was dying...My husband said that's how I feel. When I mentioned it to him the next day, he felt lets say awkward and then started drinking again. I went to an Alanon meeting and read all the brochures and let this sink in for about 2 years...And I have done all the things talking, crying, and he still doesn't stop.I never understood why he wouldn't help me with the babies and why he started to get so mean about how he works and that's why he wouldn't help me. When I got pregnant with this younges one, we started all over again. Now I have these 3 precious children and drunk husband pretty much ruining our lives...I was on antidepressants since my second baby on and off and realize now, I think his drinking contributed to most of my depression and anxiety and now it's getting worse. Now it's always me that is being too sensitive and told to not bring up the past and work on MY own depression problems and I tried so hard and it's like I feel so stuck now. He is drunk and sloppy stupid...pees in trees while my 2 yr. old daughter watches and says well U don't teach her! OMG and so much more....he gets angry at kids for nothing and says kids should be seen and not heard...well that's my story for now. I am angry, and depressed all the time and feel like it is some kind of defect on my part...and he tells me I should be more positive...
You have a ton on your plate. I have only one suggestion:
I know you would never have time to spend on a yoga class, but if you could get a disc from the library on the progressive relaxation and yoga breathing, it might help you at least unlock some of those muscles.
Just really deep breathing for a few minutes can help us physically and mentally (in with the good thoughts on inhale, out with the bad things on exhale)..brings down blood pressure etc.
keep coming back to us.