Families & Friends Of Addicts Support Group
Addiction affects more than just the individual. This community is dedicated to the families and friends of individuals suffering from any form of addiction. Mental health professionals are increasingly considering alcoholism and addiction as diseases that flourish in and are enabled by family systems. Family members react to the addicted person with particular behavioral...
Katelin has turned herself in,,, and all by herself,,, she had called me on Sunday asking if I would stop, drop and take her on Monday,,,I remained calm,, and simply told her no,, that two weeks ago I planned on doing that with her, and she choice to runaway,, which two weeks ago I reminded her that running away, is "her choice",,, just like turning herself in,, is now "her" choice,, that only she can choose to turn her life in the right direction, I can only offer love, support and hope, well she did it,, although she does not know that I know,, she has not called,,, ok,, my addicition is stalking the county jail inmates page,, and just happened to put her name,, and oh there she was,, I will admit it took my breath away, and certaintly sobbed, but at the end of the day,,, perhaps she has decided that life on the run, life has a drug addicit, is a cold, place to live,, I'm will never give up, but however my expectations have changed,, well actually learning that I can really only put expectations on myself,, my choices of living, is the kind of life I will live,,,,
Its crazy even typing this,, but I have never been so happy, to see my daughter's mug shot,,, it may not be the best picture, or perhaps the reason to be happy,,, but it's better then seeing it in the obituaries,,
so for now, I can say,,, yes I know where my daughter is,, it may not be where I want her to be, but better then where it could be,,,
peace!
Its crazy even typing this,, but I have never been so happy, to see my daughter's mug shot,,, it may not be the best picture, or perhaps the reason to be happy,,, but it's better then seeing it in the obituaries,,
so for now, I can say,,, yes I know where my daughter is,, it may not be where I want her to be, but better then where it could be,,,
peace!
And she is safe, sober, and paying her dues. Sounds crazy to say, but you must be so proud! (and of course sad, but hey, that is the insanity of addiction)
I know exactly what you mean about knowing where your kid is...when they are locked up. It isn't a bad thing. I slept better.
Love to you!
responsible choice for herself.
Love you
(((((((HUGS))))))
Mary
She, too has made a difficult choice! Maybe the toughest choice of her life......to reach out (and turning herself in is reaching out and asking for help!).
Please....do a happy dance (with your lipstick on), and thank God she is safe....
Peace.....
Big hugs
Your comment about seeing your daughter's mugshot really hit home for me today. For the past few weeks I've been busy communicating and working with my son preparing for his upcoming release and when I looked up his case worker there was his mugshot. Just like you it took my breath away and just when I started feeling hurt & angry your post kicked my butt off the pitty-party train...because these are the lucky ones - they are alive and have a chance at life.
Two weekends ago a young 17-yr old girl from my son's highschool OD'd and died at a party - her parents are devistated, the 3 kids who provided the drugs were arrested and charged with homicide; parents are screaming and the MN legislature announced today they are going to be taking up this issue during their next session b/c according to them, Heroin use & addiction by our youth in this country is out of control and more often than not connected with doctor-prescribed opiates - well duh!!! About time...
We all need to start writing to our state lawmakers to not only tell them to do something but to tell them our stories in plain English why it's so important to act now rather than later...
For those of you interested in taking some action or just venting, here's a link that will connect you to your State's lawmakers:
http://www.ncsl.org/aboutus/ncslservice/state-legislative-websites-directory.aspx