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Little brother's suicide

Gayatri
Gayatri

My 16 year old brother killed himself 3 weeks ago and I don't know how any of us are going to make it past this. It was a total shock, he wasn't bullied, he had friends, we're a very communicative family that always talks about our problems to each other.



I can't understand it. He was so loved. I feel overwhelmed with sadness, anger, guilt, pain and I just don't know how to get through this. Has anyone else had a similar experience?

patti22
patti22
I joined this group because my kid's step mother killed herself, so I don't have your experience.

But I do want you to know that I care, and that it's okay to vent, cry, and whatever.

You WILL make it through this. Nothing may be the same, but you WILL make it.

My son is 16, my heart goes out to all of you, Patti
Gayatri
Gayatri
Thanks for your support Patti
Aseret
Aseret
I am so very sorry for the loss of your brother. Although he did not mean to, he has brought great suffering on the entire family. Please keep in mind teenagers are often very secretive, even in open minded families. Males often find it difficult to admit they are feeling depressed. There is also the impulsiveness that comes with being a teen. If your brother did not leave a note (most do not) you may never know the full truth. I would suggest, if you have not already, reaching out to any close friends who may have noticed a change in him.

Depression works on the mind and makes the unthinkable seem totally rational. I found a lot of solace in books in the months after my boyfriend took his own life after experiencing unemployment and problems in his relationship with his children. Dying To Be Free by Dorothy Cobain was extremely helpful as was some articles on the subject of "psyche ache" which explains the chronological chain of suicidal individuals.

All you can do for now is take each day as it comes. Don't try to force yourself back into your old routine too quickly. You need time. The world will move on from this tragedy much sooner than you will. A lot of well-intentioned people will give you useless and often insulting advice. Some friends may not be able to handle your grief and may drop out of your life. Let them go. Find a suicide support group in your area and go to a few meetings. I found it very comforting to be in the presence of people who had experienced this traumatic kind of loss. Best wishes to you and your family.