Families & Friends Affected By Suicide Support Group
Suicide affects not only the individual, but also the family and friends who provide support and love. This community is offered as a place for those affected by suicide to gather and gain strength from each other. PLEASE NOTE: If you are suffering from suicidal thoughts, please take advantage of our CRISIS RESOURCES, which you can find at the bottom of every page of the...
I found out yesterday that my brother lost his battle with ptsd and decided to take his own life. I'm still in shock. I don't know what to think. I feel alone and scared. Part of me feels like it's my fault. I don't know what I could have done differently but I still can't stop thinking this is my fault.. I want to grieve for him but I don't know how... To be honest I don't even know if he would want me to...?...I thought I missed my brother when he lived miles and miles away. Now I know what it' like to miss him when he isn't on the planet anymore. There's no hope there to rekindle the old brotherly love we had anymore. It's so sad...
It really is not.
...you have lost someone you care for an awful lot, for your own sanity you have to grieve.
...relax your body and feel the sensations in your chest and gut. Breathe deeply and slowly.
That's where most humans carry their grief, the heart and the belly. You may want to have drinking water and tissues handy, also to be out of earshot of others, it will be very loud. Let it go through you like a wave. When it passes, you will still be here.
You will need to do this for many days.
...If I could take this pain from you, I would, but I do not have that ability. I can only tell you that my heart hurts for you. I am glad to see you back, but I really wish it were under better circumstances.
This is not your fault. This really is not your fault.
If it helps any, I have a huge amount of respect for you.
...My guy is about twice your age. He has both battle trauma and childhood abuse trauma. He dealt with this by compartmentalizing it. We found the compartments the other day. O.O. I want him living with me before any of those damn things pop open...
Ultimatly it was his choice and I had no bearing on the situation. It is hard to accept , but the truth is that there was nothing you could have done. When someone decides to end thier life they have every intention of going through with it.
I am so sorry for your loss and I wish I had better words for you.
I am usually here if you want to talk.