Families & Friends Affected By Suicide Support Group
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One of my family members committed suicide around 3 years ago. Is it normal to still hurt over his loss? Not a day goes by without thinking of him. I miss him so much. I know its only human to miss someone you lost, but even after 3 years? I was young when it happened, but i knew enough to understand what was going on.
Also, I wrote a poem for him. Tell me what you think.
I Loved You So Much.
For Charlie (p.s. i miss you)
I am here looking at the full moon,
Pondering the question "Why did you have to leave so soon?"
I just want to let you know that i cared
You were my teddy bear
But no matter how much i held on to you
You were gone
And now the days drag on so long
Without you here, by my side
There is no one to whom i can confide
I need you here
But you dont even feel near
I loved you so much,
I loved you so much.
I know now you are up in the sky
But no matter how far up I fly
I can never get you back
I feel like my heart has been attacked.
I cry at the thought that you arent here
And at the thought I have lost you I fear,
Life itself and everyhthing on it
Now I feel my life is just an empty pit,
Waiting for me to climb out.
But my success I doubt.
Because I am nothing without you
Without you my life is not exciting or new.
As I continue my life without my teddy bear,
I feel I have nothing to hold on to when im scared
I feel I have no hope to continue living on,
but I know you would want me to stay strong
I loved you so much,
I loved you so much.
Why cant i join you there.
I need my teddy bear.
You told me not to follow
But why i want to know
I am listening to what you say
Because, you i do not want to disobey
But for now i am just waiting for the day
Where, with you, i can stay,
i loved you so much,
i loved you so much.
Also, I wrote a poem for him. Tell me what you think.
I Loved You So Much.
For Charlie (p.s. i miss you)
I am here looking at the full moon,
Pondering the question "Why did you have to leave so soon?"
I just want to let you know that i cared
You were my teddy bear
But no matter how much i held on to you
You were gone
And now the days drag on so long
Without you here, by my side
There is no one to whom i can confide
I need you here
But you dont even feel near
I loved you so much,
I loved you so much.
I know now you are up in the sky
But no matter how far up I fly
I can never get you back
I feel like my heart has been attacked.
I cry at the thought that you arent here
And at the thought I have lost you I fear,
Life itself and everyhthing on it
Now I feel my life is just an empty pit,
Waiting for me to climb out.
But my success I doubt.
Because I am nothing without you
Without you my life is not exciting or new.
As I continue my life without my teddy bear,
I feel I have nothing to hold on to when im scared
I feel I have no hope to continue living on,
but I know you would want me to stay strong
I loved you so much,
I loved you so much.
Why cant i join you there.
I need my teddy bear.
You told me not to follow
But why i want to know
I am listening to what you say
Because, you i do not want to disobey
But for now i am just waiting for the day
Where, with you, i can stay,
i loved you so much,
i loved you so much.
Latest TGA Reports Reveal 18 Youth Suicides and Attempted Suicides
The first long-term study of antidepressants causing suicide in youths confirms that while the risk of suicide is the same for all antidepressants-SSRIs and older tricyclics-the risk is five times greater than for the general population. Sebastian Schneeweiss, MD, ScD of Harvard Medical School and colleagues reported in Pediatrics: Our analysis supports the decision of the [U.S.] Food and Drug Administration to include all antidepressants in the black box warning regarding increased suicidality risk for children and adolescents initiating use of antidepressants. Read more in this article at WebMD or on Reuters News Service.
The Citizens Commission on Human Rights today called on the Therapeutic Goods Administration to add a stronger black box warning on antidepressants.
I lost my best friend to a drunk driving accident when we were 21 years old... I still miss her and cry over her death 24 years later... There is no time table for grief.
My father commtted suicide when I was 12. When I was 15/16 and in high school playing soccer, I felt so different. I thought, will I ever get over this...enough already! I'm now 30 and it's only been recently that I've allowed myself to feel the hurt and pain my father left behind. I've learned to let myself sit with my emotions and just let them be.
So I have something I want to share. I had a yoga teacher once tell me (after I shared with him my issue around my father) that suicide is really not that big of a deal...it just means they didn't get it right in this life but they might in the next. While this may be going against what most of us were taught...it really sat well with me.
The other thing is, I feel so close to my dad when I meditate, do yoga, or do anything that connects me with me. I've found this to be an extremely powerful and therapeutic practice. It's like he is living and I am able to help him through all his pain!
My sincerest best to you,
Katie
The thing that keeps me going the most is knowing that neither Steve or Derek would want me to have a miserable life missing them......they would want me to respect them now and stop questioning! Just find the courage to live each day and go on! Best of luck to you and i am here for you
The effects on my family has really taken a toll. Counseling has kept me sane. I just joined this web group. I'm learning that you sometimes need to take it just an hour at a time because your future can change at any minute. So just focus on now, tomorrow will fall into place.
I try to find my peace by knowing his pain is over with. And to be thankful what years I did have with him.
I loved your poem. I know what you mean by being scared. I too, am scared. But my new motto is DO IT SCARED. I find I'm braver than I thought. Besides what's the worse that can happen? I already feel the worse has happen.