Just stay strong for her and help her with what you can do. But dont let it bring you down. She will sense it! Good luck and I am sorry! Try counseling.

There are many hotlines that you can call for assistance on how to best handle this...as this appears to be very serious. Xoxo

hi In SuL 1nlmP,
Ive been in your girlfriends shoes and it may be that she needs to go to the hospital to get some serious evaluation and meds. dealing with rape is something you never forget and can be traumatic for a long time. as far as "mental problems" that can be a range of things from depression to anything more serious" if she tells you she is suicidal everyday then I feel that would be the best place for her. She can get connected to a psych and someone like a therapist. therapy is great dealing with rape and other issues like that. Im glad she has you there but she needs more support. not that your not enough you care to comment for help but she should admidt herself and tell the e.r doctors this. prayers to you both.

I know were your coming from but on he other side. Am schizophrenic and have autism. I was abused mentally, physically an sexually by my parents and the human i married. I used to hate going to sleep as i knew i would have the same worthless suicidal feelings when i woke up. I hate me! After being alone for so long i finally trusted myself and found another human that was just there! He dint mind about the feelings i had, he said it was ok and if i spoke to him he would try to help.
He did not mind about my problems, he did not mind that i did not have any friends, he did not mind that i stopped talking when i was feeling bad, He did not mind that i pushed him away when i thought he was getting to close. He did not mind a million other things that i thought made me a bad human. He was just there.
In time (no happy ending for me) i have improved. I dont mind bed time, I get up in the morning with my head held high and wonder why i ever felt that low. Just be there for her no matter what and you know time is a great thing. My best wishes to you.

be there for her comfort her and stay strong for her be her crying shoulder and tell her to hold on there is life out there she has to just see it i was molested at 8 years old by my moms brother i think about that every day

You are doing the right thing by reaching out for support and direction. It may seem really hard to step out and let her family and her doctor know what is going on but its the best thing to do. I did not think in a million years that my brother would ever leave me and he did and i know I couldnt have stopped him just as this is not your burden to bear alone. But guiding her to professionals who can intervene and help her cope with the pain she is in is a better alternative than the chaos and fear of dealing with this alone. You wont regret getting help, Take her seriously and tell someone even if it seems like an empty threat. The pain of losing someone to suicide is indescribable and I'm so glad you are making the choice to look for help. Prayers to both of you.

I would definitely call your area's crisis team for assistance. Not sure how it's set up where you live but in TN, for instance, every county has a designated crisis team. You should be about to google your area's crisis team phone number. This team can assist in determining appropriate treatment for your girlfriend, can make referrals as needed and can provide you with appropriate resources and guidance in how to best approach the situation. Hope this helps and I wish you guys the best!

I was sexually abused at 7. At one point in my teenage years, my dad convinced me to call a hotline, if just to talk to someone I would never have to see, talk to, or know every again past that point. I did it, and talked to that person for hours, crying and telling him things I'd never told anyone EVER. For me, it was a purge of all the poison I'd carried with me for so many years--I remember a time when I wouldn't let my dad kiss me because of it. He was so hurt and didn't understand, he loved me so much. I felt horrible because I loved him so much, but I couldn't bear the contact.

Such an event as rape can lead to many issues such as eating disorders, depression, and suicidal thoughts. I guess it means you have to understand that the loss of control, the horrific loss of control--and how she deals with it, is a very real part of her life, bless her heart. But it's also a HUGE thing to place on your shoulders as well, hence you coming here.

Your sweetie needs help: she trusts you. When I finally told my boyfriend (now my husband of over 20 years), the relief was profound. He told me it would never happen again, and that I was so much more than what had happened to me. Yes, it was horrible, so horrible I still block it out of my memories. Yes, it defined how I viewed relationships, always fearful. But like you, he loved me beyond that hurt. He told me that, and I took it to heart.

Your GF needs to move past that point where she feels her life was obliterated. She needs to see that it does NOT DEFINE HER. She is still strong, still beautiful, still whole. If it helps her to read this, let her. From one to another--that awful moment is not yours. It's not your fault. And through your pain, through your strenght--girl I know, like me, you can find peace with who you are. I was seven, and I lived with it for so long, then I found someone who completed my life in the moment I needed it. Take that and RUN. You are beautiful and wonderful because you are YOU. Live and show them ALL just how strong you are!