this is exactly why i wish men could suffer from endo and all the things women go through so maybe they could understand more. my grandmother is the same way. i couldnt get out of bed and she wanted me to pick up her tv move it from the bedroom to the living room, i told her "im not feeling well" and her response was "your going to get worse anyways so get over it and deal with it now" i was never so hurt and angry all at the same time. anyways maybe you can talk with him and let him know how bad he hurt you or get him involved when you go to the doctor so he can understand endo better and how it affects you.

good luck and i hope you feel better
and congrats on stopping smoking!!!!!

I agree with Sabby. Men would never be able to deal with the pain and hormonal roller coaster that endo puts us through. Maybe he had a bad day at work and was unfortunately taking it out on you. I'm sorry...its not fair

Im so sorry this was such an insensitive thing to say to you, hope your pain gets better asap

Good news all around today. The pain has been kept at bay with a hefty dose of medications. He came to me later, apologizing, for being insensitive. What surprised me the most was that he IS very involved. He goes to every appointment (for all of my health conditions) and is very supportive usually. He has been under a lot of stress and we've been working on stress management together. This turned out to be a very positive situation for us because we grew together in regards to communication. Still, I bet he'd be a bit ticked off if I shot down his asthma pains (I have asthma as well) or made fun of his fear of bees!

Oh, sweetheart, my heart really goes out to you. I wish people could understand more about this disease.

It hurts. It hurts ALOT. Nothing helps... the pain medicine takes the edge off, but oh, you get really tired, and actually, it still hurts, so you have to keep still and wear a heating pad, too.

On top of that, you get depressed. You can't go out, you can't have fun, you can't have sex, and then people get annoyed at you and tell you they are just so sick of you not feeling good.

OK, well, more pills for that. But, oh, it seems that Endo also happens to those of us with immune systems that don't work as well, so you get colds and joint pain and headaches and all sorts of other fun things... and more medicine.

And THEN, you have a nice doctor who tell you that you are taking too much medicine and they are not going to give you anymore. OR they give you a prescription and they give you 100 Darvocet with 5 refills on it. Oh, um, so are we also going to get blamed when you just throw pills at us and then woder why we are dependent on them?! And, yes, it's DEPENDENT on them, not ADDICTED.

I would love to feel good everyday and not have to take anything ever again. I would love to not have the cramps, back aches, head aches and depression.

But at least I know we are all in this together, and this group is a wonderful place to vent... which, actually, it looks like I just did! Sorry there, Katsumi.

But my thoughts are with you. Big hugs. Email me if you ever need to vent. xoxo

http://www.hcgresources.com/SurvivorLetter.html

Read this to them!

Glad you got an apology & are on the mend. x

Thank you so much for that link. I already have a few in mind that I would like to email it to, and a few that I will personally read it aloud to.