Empty Nests Support Group
Empty nest syndrome is a general feeling of depression and loneliness that parents/other guardian relatives feel when one or more of their children leave home. Empty nest syndrome has become more prevalent in modern times, as the extended family is becoming less common than in past generations, and the elderly are left living by themselves.
I am new here. I have been looking for support for this for quite a while. I think some doctors and nurses just think you will be able to "let it go"...whatever that means. I have Major depression and generalized Anxiety disorder. So letting things go doesnt even register. I was young when I had my first, 18. Then my second at 26 after a miscarriage in between. Then after that I was pregnant again when my youngest was about 5 and I had to abort the pregnancy. I pine over the 2 lost babies. I pine after my 2 grown babies. My oldest is 29 now and lives across the country where a plane would be needed. My youngest decided to quit college (he was an honor student who got in with the wrong friends and girlfriends). Then he decided to move out unexpectedly during a heated verbal fight between myself and him. For about 4 months I did not know where he was or even if he was ok. You see he ghosted me and the whole rest of the family. Then very slowly he would come around and answer texts or emails very rarely, but would answer. He also has a history of severe depression and anxiety and had tried to harm himself. I was a wreck. I'm not even sure how I made it through those days and nights with so.much anguish and worry. Then Covid hit. I have not been able to see them. My kids have zoomed with me on the 2 holidays. I was feeling somewhat better about my relationship with my youngest, but then recently he has been ghosting me again. I dont know why or how to even fix it or apologize if did something. Today is his 22 birthday and I am so sad and down. My husband tries to be here for me. The rest of the family is hurting as well over his pushing us away. I am certain it is probably his lifestyle and the circle of people he is friends with. You see they are not what a parent would consider good quality. They help him do drugs and stay unemployed. Girlfriend is emotionally abusive towards him and us. It's so hard. My therapist wants me to "let it go". I'm looking for a new therapist.
I thought I was OK and never thought I would go through empty nest syndrome. I was so sad that I could not even describe how sad I was after I dropped off my son to his dorm. I felt so alone and empty. I felt that something was missing. I cried while my husband hugged me without saying anything.
I found an online support group for parents and I was comforted after I shared my feelings with other parents. I realized I was not alone and their comments were very encouraging. I also have a life group who pray with me.
My son is now a sophomore and living alone in his apartment. I’m OK now and have adjusted to living a life far from my only child. We talk and text everyday. There are still times that I worry and feel sad but after I pray, I experience God’s peace that surpasses all understanding.
I’m glad that you found us. Keep sharing. I hope you will find comfort here as well. Empty nest syndrome is real. Journaling is also a big help. Write down all your emotions, it can help you to feel better. Praying for you, for peace and comfort as you go through this journey. I hope to hear from you again and let us know how you are doing. We are here for you. God bless.