Empty Nests Support Group

Empty nest syndrome is a general feeling of depression and loneliness that parents/other guardian relatives feel when one or more of their children leave home. Empty nest syndrome has become more prevalent in modern times, as the extended family is becoming less common than in past generations, and the elderly are left living by themselves.

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RaquelS 02/03/2017

Hi I have 4 adult children. Two of them are identical twin daughters, who have come home to me a few times after they first left. Anyway, my twins are the youngest but are now 28. They are still very immature for their ages. They mistreat me verbally and usually never come around unless they need money or a babysitter (although, I love having my grandchildren)

My point is, I am tired of the way they both treat me. If, I bring it to each of their attention they both become angry and either keep their kids from me or just stop spending time with me other than Holidays.

Has anyone here experienced this as well?

If so, how did you handle it?

I am tired of the emotional rollercoaster they have me on right now.

Raquel

Deb822 02/07/2017

I have experienced the same thing!! I was told that they are emotionally blackmailing me by a professional. My girls got everything they ever wanted, I have 3 daughters and the oldest one is not like the younger 2. I can't even ask the youngest one (24) a question without her saying "why do you keep asking me questions". She moved out and hasn't been back home for 44 days. I know its silly to count the days but I do miss her. She has changed. Then my 25 year old told me I was ignorant the other day. I have cried enough to fill a river. But no more, I am ignoring them now. I am told they will come around. IF its for something they want then forget it I am saying no. My heart is heavy and I am very sad about all of this. It is ridiculous that us moms have to be treated this way. I think my girls are spoiled brats. One has a daughter (3 years old) and she has used her by not letting me see her when she is mad. But it only lasts for a short while. I am done at this point. I have only known what it is like to be a invested mom, then one day they are gone and I am lonely. I have my husband of 33 years but he never wants to do anything. Tomorrow is a new day and I am working on getting myself taken care of. I am going to be busy and keep my mind occupied so that I don't have to think about how they treat me. Good luck

RaquelS 02/08/2017

Sounds just like my twin daughters (28) now.
Yeah, I am saying no more often for sure.
I think its great you are going to focus on yourself.
Maybe you could try and get your hubby interested in some new hobby for just you two to do.
Raquel
PS My oldest daughter is the most mature, respectful daughter and I truly enjoy her company.

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