Emotional Abuse Community Group
This group is for people who live their lives with an emotionally abusive person. Often Isolation is a barrier to getting help and support from others who know what you are going through.
Not even 24 hours into the new year and he has already made me cry, and wish i were dead.
Why? Was there a reason to deny me lunchtime with the family? Was there a reason to call me fat and tell me to go to bed and be worthless?? He says he was mean because i didnt clean the kitchen. But for 15 years our kitchen has never been clean like he demands it. (He wants it to look like an unused showroom. Like those fake staged houses you can tour when you are looking to build.. He wants the whole house that clean.) We have kids and a dog. There is no way to have a spotless kitchen when I am the only one that does any cleaning at all. (He has no problem making messes. But wont clean any) the kids do dishes. But dont care if they actually get clean. They shove them in cabinets and i am often greeted with an avalanche of dishes when i go to get a pot to make dinner.
There is no way for me to win unless i dedicate my every waking moment to doing things for him. I am thinking he is an Earl. But i dont have any girlfriends to help me with my earl situation.
So its looking like 2021 is not going to be any different than 2020.
A good friend told me that I need to start becoming more independent. I'm independent to a point but I guess I could stand to be more. So in 2021 I vowed to her and myself that I would try to become more independent.
It's hard when your emotionally abused I sometimes wish it were physical because the wounds would heal. I guess we have to change our mindset. Good luck and know you are not alone in this. I'm suffering my own hell with my husband too.