Your mother is a very ignorant woman when it comes to ed and if doesn't open her eyes soon she will find out the hard way how dangerous ed is. What does it take for her to believe you? I hope you have a good talk with meredith tomorrow and will decide to go anyway.

i cant anyways cuz there will be no one to take me pa or to get my labs and ekg....everyone says im being selfish..than u Karrin for replying to my post. i really appreciate it. she always tells me that if im sick shell help me but if i damage myself by not eating shell just drop me off at a residential place and turn her back. she is very ignorant when it comes to ed's.

It is so hard for many people to understand any kind of disorder like this. Your mom is just afraid you'll give up c ollege. I worked at a college for 5 years and it is nothing for students to take a semester off to deal with something like this. Believe me your school will not react badly to your need to take care of yourself and do this. Good luck with everything.

thank you

I'm so sorry that your mom is getting in the way of your recovery. You deserve to get treatment and be healthy. I hope you find a way.

I know the feeling of a parent trying to tell you they know what you need and that you don't need inpatient. I'll always resent my mom for that, I think. Even though I'm trying to stay on track now, I still really hold a grudge on that. Even when I was grossly underweight nothing happened.

Also parents can look at you and if they don't see skin and bones, they don't see sickness. That's what my friend's experience was. She didn't lose a ton of weight but she was very sick mentally and needed help. It's very ignorant for people to think that weight determine sickness.

I hope your mother can get her head out of her ass and see that it's not about this woman "stealing money". Best of luck to you!!!

she just yelled at me actually again...she was like ur not sick ...as big as u are....im still over weight....but i dropped 15lbs in a month..i dont think thats a problem but meredith thinks so.....she was like ur not anorexic skinny..ur fine....last time i had a blood test my doc said that i was severely anemic she said and pre diabetic.

honestly though...i did my best in reaching out and asking for help...ill go wen schools over in May. i just hope the option is still there later on.

I know how hard it is that people who tell you they love you are not helpful. I'm in a similar situation, not with going IP but with the lack of support for getting treatment for OP. My family takes the attitude "you know what to do, so just do it" and tag along with "you've had treatment, why don't you just eat healthy?". So I get the emotional anguish you feel when you don't have support.

I know what your mom is thinking. She is thinking that you are going to give up on school. That once you're out you won't want to go back. My mom also has the same concerns. I'm taking a semester off due to not being able to complete the Nursing program. She worries that I will not go back, which is wrong. I desperately want to go back because I want a degree. Not that I'm in love with school I just want a degree so I can get out and get a great career.

You're going to have to say to your mom that you want to continue school, that you just need a break to get your ED under control. I have said this before: you won't be able to go to school if you're dead. Feel free to push that exact quote to your mom.

You have to get your mom to understand that you can easily drop dead despite being a higher weight. While you may be okay weight-wise it is an illusion of "health". I have been very sick when my weight was "healthy". In fact, I have been *more* sick when my weight was "healthy" than when I was underweight because of excessive purging. My blood tests came back when I was "healthy" saying scary things including that my bone marrow was malfunctioning, my red blood cells were mis-shaped, my white blood cell count was low, my kidneys, liver, and pancreas were inflamed. Okay does that not scare the shit out of you?! Who would think that my inside was falling apart when my outside image was "healthy". Weight is an illusion. Total illusion. It fools us into thinking "well you look okay, so you must be okay". WRONG!

Print up all the effects of EDs for you mom. Find articles explaining that weight doesn't matter in terms of EDs. Just get her information.

You have got to push that you are an adult. You make the choice to go IP. All you want is her support, to love you and be there for you. This is the time to get all mushy. It's not manipulating, it's expressing your feelings and wants and how close your bond is.

Good luck with this...keep us updated.

Your mother is very ignorant and really doesnt get it. ed is very dangerous and she doesnt seem to get that. just because someone eats around others doesnt mean they are okay. i am a prime example. i really hope you decide to go to IP despite your mothers ignorance. you deserve happiness and health. i will keep you in my thoughts.

thank u ladies...she knows ill g oback cuz i always do...when i was in high school after weeks of hospializations i always went back to school. ..she cares about what her family will think more than she cares about my well being. im just gonna keep losing weight and doing me til May.