i was thinking of posting something similar the other day. i think what starts our ed s is different for everyone. mine was caused by pressure from my parents to lose weight. i've tried getting people to understand what goes on in my mind but its so difficult. i"m looking forward to seeing others responses so maybe i can explain it better to my husband.

i was thinking of posting something similar the other day. i think what starts our ed s is different for everyone. mine was caused by pressure from my parents to lose weight. i've tried getting people to understand what goes on in my mind but its so difficult. i"m looking forward to seeing others responses so maybe i can explain it better to my husband.

i did tell my friend that it affects everyone differently. mine was caused by several reasons...people always talking about my weight, losing a best friend and feeling like everything was out of control, and always been made feeling like i was never good enough or nothing i did was good enough...so i started starving myself to punish myself and because it gave me control over something until one day i realized it had control over me.

sorry it posted twice :(
i think control plays a huge part in it. it feels like your ed owns you and it controls every aspect of your life. completely consumes your day. your thoughts.

You could buy her a book that explains all about different eating disorders and their causes.

She wants to understand - thats great!
No-one can understand exactly what caused your ed because they will see you differently to how you see you, please don't stop trying to explain to someone who want to listen though.
Are you able to write down how you feel or what you want to say to her.
ed tricks us and tries to confuse us to keep its control so sometimes I think even someone with an ed can struggle to understand what caused it (maybe that's just me though.)
Don't give up :)

Okay. The other night I talked to this same friend again. I was really honest with her more than I have been because I really felt desperate to get things off my mind. For the first time I felt like she really listened to me and got what I was saying about my ed and how I felt inside. So now I am not sure what to do at this point because I am still afraid that I will lose her friendship and she's like a second mom to me.....so i need your advice girls....thanks...

You have to accept that no-one other than you can truly understand YOUR ed. If she to accepts that then I think there is no reason why your friendship cannot continue as it has already.
Always be honest. Hiding thoughts and feeling can make you feel alone. I'm not saying you have to tell her everything. Only what you want to. I guess the point I'm trying to make is if you do wantt to say somethhing to someone don't be afraid to say it.

my mum had bulimia and i copyed her.
i was about 9.

It is so tough talking about eating disorders.... so tough! Just know that angels are with you, helping you through this time- aiding you in finding all of the right things to say to the people you love...

I have struggled with my eating disorder for years... and lord knows, I am alive (we are alive) for a reason. I had falsely prided myself in "kicking my habit" for years... only to recently relapse.

Beginning as a binger/purger, I found myself eating EVERYTHING in sight... ending in my very sad throwing up. My body began to fall apart... my weight jumping up and down... catching flus and colds more often...

But then, I made a promise to myself to quit. And I maintained this promise for sometime... until, two weeks ago, I discovered laxatives.

I am addicted, and sad.

But I will NOT LOSE HOPE.

I believe that I can kick this habit... I must.

We must.

Best wishes to you, love.

Everything is going to be ok!