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searchingforbalance
searchingforbalance

I feel unwanted. I was having passive suicidal thoughts and my disordered eating patterns of 10 years were getting worse, so my family and I decided to withdrawal me from college classes for now (I’m 19 years old) to focus on my mental health. I’ve felt unsafe with myself and seriously lost on what to do in each passing moment. However, I’m still not “sick enough” to get into some treatment programs. I got turned down by one today. They keep dragging me in circles and it takes forever. In the meantime, I don’t know how to act, how to live. I felt unwanted in the “real world” and it turns out, I’m not even wanted when I try to get help. 

eli_mom
eli_mom
Hi- I’m very sorry you are going through this.
I’m glad you reach out to us. Have you tried joining a support group where group of people with the same experience get together? It will help you not to feel isolated and less lonely. A support group has been a big help to my friend to start feeling better from depression. He meets this group once a week regularly. I hope this will work for you too.

Please stay strong. I pray that you can get the help you need to get well. Take care and please update us, God bless.
FadingFlower
FadingFlower
I am sad you are dealing with this too. Feeling unwanted, rejected, or even undermined is not fun. I have dealt with rejection many times despite all my good efforts to reach out with kindness. Perhaps, I give 'too much'. Maybe, you do the same. While it is easy to lose motivation for almost everything, remember you are here for a reason. I am not sure what your beliefs are. It is still difficult when others around you are not receptive or giving 'value' to you. You are valuable. We all have intrinsic value. Perhaps, we are looking for friends in the 'wrong faces'. I pray that you will find peace, comfort, and acceptance. I need these prayers too.
oliver87
oliver87
You shouldn't feel unwanted darling. I definitely can relate about treatment programs. It feels like you have to get sicker than you are (even though you are heading that way) in order to get any help. I think it's madness it's almost encouraging people to get sicker which makes no sense. i hope that you feel supported in this community. It will take a short time to become established but when you are it's great. I really do hope that you find a treatment program soon. Have you looked into getting a therapist. They may be able to help you with yours thoughts and feelings whilst trying to look for a treatment program. xx
APOR2017
APOR2017
searchingforbalance, this breaks my heart for you to feel this way. I am proud of you for sharing here. It is encouraging that programs do not think you need them. This says that you are able to work towards success today and not wait on a program. Find something each day that you enjoy, even if it is for 10 minutes and do that thing. Then find something to challenge yourself for 5 minutes, and do that. Keeping yourself motivated is an excellent way to work through those feelings and also to find things to regain hope. I have been there and it is a journey, but the journey can be fun if you dive in and get serious about experiencing joy. I believe in you!!