I'm the opposite, I get so embarassed when people mention my weight loss that I try to eat something to show that im fine - im not fine but of course they don't know that.......tomorrow is another day, hope you manage to get back on track x

Yes this sucks because everyone is so focused on what you eat,how much,your weight.That is like me going up to my mom and sister and say you should not eat that because you look like you put on a few-It is very hard but I try to remember when I restrict,it hurts me and can lead to health issues again,dizziness,etc.People always have something to say and I believe they have there own insecurities and some just do not get eating disorders-there needs to be more education out there.

SIGH! Unfportunately you will never be able to keep ppl from making such comments. Just know they come from a place of love and concern for you.

Just focus on the fact that they are saying those things because they care. They may have no clue how to talk to you productively, but if you try you can translate what they really said into what their hearts are saying, which is I love you, I care about you, and I want to be healthy.

And if that is not what their heart is saying, then screw 'em!!

Are you out of the ED closet to these folks? If so, then my approach will make sense. I just come out and say "yeah, I have an eating disorder. I am not dieting. I am sick. Read about it."

It's annoying at the best of times when the only thing people begin to see about you is your physical, and once they start commenting on it, well, like you said, it just gets worse. My family and friends don't like talking about ED, but they sure don't mind talking about my looks or watching me eat. So, I make ED front and centre and keep them informed of the struggles I go through. I don't want to hear them critique my looks or their opinions they care not to learn about. So, I educate them. I've even left rooms and events when people choose to stay focused on my physical.

That happens to me all the time. I hate family gatherings because it makes it hard to restrict. And having one bathroom throws purging out the window. I just try to pick at the food during conversations. Next week is camping week for my family. And I am scared shitless because I cannot purge, and it's hard to restrict. I always try laxitives.

I should stop rambling, because I think I'm giving ideas that I'm not meaning on sending.

Anyways, just work through the meals and take your time. Hang in there

oh, I have been there. first thing I noticed in your post is you can clearly separate your own voice from ED's voice - which is a huge step. once you can separate the two, you can start to teach yourself to listen to Megan's voice rather than what ED is telling you. it takes time and practice. the next time you go to an event like this, re-resolve to stick to your food plan. don't worry about what you did yesterday or start obsessing about how or what you might feel the next day, just stay in the moment, stick to your food plan, and enjoy the company. Megan, your voice will get stronger than ED's voice as you practice new skills. and as for others and what they say, it will continue to happen. you will never please everyone. and that is ok, you don't have to. listen to your doctor's and take it a day at a time. you will find yourself as you recover.

i am so sorry, no one has so bluntly and rudely made it an issue with me, but i have had similar things happen. i once went shopping for a concert outfit with my friend. i went directly to to the plus size section of the store, and started picking out skirts and pull over blouses. my friend just kept staring at all the different fabrics with this disgusted look that seemed to say, "you really are THAT huge?!" it made me feel like i would look fat singing onstage. so i chose a sensible pair of dress pants and blouse, and left. she was and had always been much thinner than me, and delighted in dragging me into stores like ambercombie and wet seal-stores she knew made me self-concious and didn't carry clothes in my size.

since then, she has had 2 kids, and we no longer go clothes shopping together-which makes my life a lot easier.

i am glad you're recognizing your unhealthy behavior, and coming here for help and encouragement. from the sound of your post, you must have read "life without ed". have you done any of the exercises in the book yet? if not, you might want to try it. the "defining your recovery" one helped me a lot. in fact, when i move, i'm typing up my answer to that excise and hanging it up somewhere in my apartment. if you want to try the "defining your recovey" exercise, it's my DS journal.