oh man i hate that. it bugs me so much. i dunno, the best i can figure is that she just doesn't get it. something just isn't getting through to her that it might be unacceptable for her to talk about that stuff around you. people just don't think sometimes. would it help if you talked to her and told you how it made you feel and ask her to please not talk about it around you anymore?

Ugh, that is really harsh if she knows about your eating disorder, I'm really sorry she is disregarding your feelings and being fairly vocal about HER wants (losing weight). I have to say though, this is good practice for long term recovery. In life, there will always been people that surround us that are trying to lose weight. Whether it be at work, at church, a friend, at school...etc. I think the thing you have to take away from this is focusing on yourself. Even though she is triggering you to resort back to unhealthy habits and thoughts, you have to make clear in your own mind and follow through on what is good for YOU. Dieting, weighing yourself, losing weight...isn't whats best for you. Mentally, physically, emotionally. So you're going to have to decide that her non stop talking about weight and diet is NOT going to rule you. I am not sure what your situation is, but I don't think its out of line to excuse yourself from the dinner table and eat elsewhere, whether it be outside, or in another room. Take a book, listen to music and eat in peace.

Good luck. Just remember, this is HER stuff, and it doesn't dictate what choices you are going to make, regarding what is BEST FOR YOU!

Paperdoll said it best! This will always happen somewhere in life and we need to get used to it, but when a loved one does it - it seems hurtful and very triggering b/c they know about the situation. You need to talk to her ASAP. If she keep it up, remove yourself from the situation b/c it can be toxic for you. Either way, stay strong in your recovery and do what is right for "you". HUGS:)

i have the same problem. my friend became literally obssessed with losing weight and counting calories.. and becuz i have an ED also, i found that almost like a trigger. it became really hard to deal with beucz that would be all she talked about and i just couldnt be around when she did or i would just ignore her. it ended up wrecking our friendship beucz she couldnt stop even tho i told her not to talk about it around me. ive talked to my nutritionist about it and she thinks that maybe she was just insecure and found that talking about it made her feel safe? maybe this is the same case with your sister.. i would try talking to her about it and just say like, hey you know i have an ED and those kind of subjects are hard to talk about for me, so could you not bring it up.. or something like that. try to understand eachother. best of luck :)

i hope you can sit down with your sister and tell her just how damaging her comments are but also tell her you will support her in her attempt to lose weight as long as it's healthy if she agrees you to encourage you in your battle on ed.
And like paperdoll said you will run across situations like that all the time. I have not met one female who hasn't brought up weight issues.

thank you for all the support and comments. this weight loss thing is fairly new for her. my sister is 13 and 5 4. my family is overweight on my mom's side. kayla has 95 percentile growth rate. this means that only 5% of kids in the country her age are taller/stronger than she is. i think her early development coupled with my family's weight history may have triggered this.

to be perfectly honest, losing weight wouldn't be a bad idea. i binge/starve. and my ED plus my disability has caused me to gain a lot. however, dieting, food diaries, counting calories, etc. are major triggers for me,so i stopped doing them. i don't think she really understands what a trigger is in terms of my ED. i'll try talking to her about it. thanks again.-fallow