Eating Disorders Support Group

Eating disorders are marked by an obsessive need to control the intake and/or purging of food. This community is dedicated to those struggling on the road to recovery. Join to discuss your experience with others and find support. Get advice, ask questions, and meet others who are going through similar struggles.

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Coley1989
Coley1989
So this weekend was a real eyeopener. I found out, not in the best way, what my brother and sister really think of me. My brother and I were laying on the couch and I'm not sure how we got on the topic but he was saying all this passive things. I'm sure he didn't mean them how they came out but was really bad. He was like, your not like Meg and I, we do everything we put our mind to, we're motivated, I just dont fit in. I thought my brother was my best friend. He was always there for me and I felt like him and I connected. Then my sister and I were on the phone talking about how I cleaned the house while I was home from school. She was liek "is this my sister I'm talking too?" She couldn't believe that I cleaned and did stuff around the house. She said I was lazy and never helped out. I'm so sick of them ganging up on me and putting me down. I feel that this contributes a lot to why I do what I do. I had a bad binge after all this occurred. It triggered all these bad feelings and I just needed to do something. I hate that they think all these things about me. I use to be the athlete, mrs. popularity and all that over rated SHIT. Now I'm just a regular college student with nothing really going on. They made me feel so shitty. It sux to know what you family thinks of you.....well if anyone has advice on coping with this it would great...
THANX
deleted_user
deleted_user
I don't have advice, just insight. I know coz my sisters also has mental issues of their own but not mine and one says that I can do anything I put my mind to. It's not that easy. not everything is black and white. If they thing you are lazy and you know you aren't then comment when you clean or say something to that extent. They wouldn't know if you don't tell and obviously if they make ignorent comments you turn it on yourself which isn't necessary. Just be open and honest. I got good advice, how sad it may be, I need to see everyone I know with a clear head (without ED goggles obscuring my perspective) and then (even my family) if they can't connect to me emotionally then it's not worth telling them things. Sad as it may be, tesp people and see if they react positively to your needs, if not, just don't bother but make peace with it coz it's their shortcomings not yours.

*hug*
Hope you'll feel better next week.
deleted_user
deleted_user
my family also thinks im lazy. i dont understand how they could think it but really bothers me as well. my mom reminds me to not listen to the rest of the family because they arent around enough to judge if im lazy or not.
deleted_user
deleted_user
You know yourself. Don't stand for other people's evaluation of you. Be tender with yourself and know that ou make a difference in this world.You have made a difference to me
and you are special. Don't take how others define you but define yourself. Other people including those who profess to love us are different from us. You are unique and special and wonderful just as you are. Believe in yourself and don't let ayone use you as a doormat. Been there, done that. It makes me want to puke.Westand together as the sisterhood of women who will not settle for the ordinary. We expect the extraordinary.