I can relate. On the outside, it doesn't really look like I have ED, but don't ever go looking in my head one will find very eating disordered thinking. My current medical records refer to me as being "morbidly obese" despite my BMI having gone down since last time they put that in my medical records. I have more weight to lose, though with past and present ED behaviors primary doc set a weight range that I'm going to try to get to in about 18 months. I'm trying to be "well behaved" about it, but it's not easy.

I don't fit in the category that you described (sorry you are going through this right now!!) but I think it's a very frustrating position to be in. According to most medical definitions weight is a standard consideration in assessing whether someone is anorexic or not. I personally think that's ridiculous. It seems to me it has way more to do with your attitude, fear and restriction of food no matter what you weigh.
So, if a woman starts off at 250 pounds and starves herself down and restricts and calorie counts obsessively, at what magical weight (a number on the scale? Her BMI?) is she considered "Anorexic"? It makes no sense to me. Dangerous mindsets and behaviours around eating should all be treated as equally serious no matter what a woman's BMI or weight is.

Food obsessions are serious problems whatever your weight. Ive been totally obsessed myself and in the mind set where controlling my eating is the only thing that fits into my mind.

Do you know why you gained the weight? Is it due to some medical condition or have you been having a rough time in general?