So, this is not a weight loss group-- this group is for dealing with the actual eating disorder itself. That means dealing with the underlying issues that result in bingeing. It has nothing whatsoever to do with dieting, and nothing to do with willpower or "not eating as much." Have you got some idea of what triggers you to binge? Are you getting help for your eating disorder? If you're only on here to get weight loss tips you've come to the wrong place.

Have you heard that saying "diets don't work"? Then there is another saying "you need to make a lifestyle change with your food choices". Gosh those were two of my favorites...not. But, now that I am mostly free of the ED I can see that these two statements are, in fact, true.

The idea of "will power" is, in my opinion, crazy. What you are going through has nothing to do with "will power". Whenever anyone told me I needed more will power the only thing I felt was alone, abandoned and judged.

Binge eating and trying to exercise enough to offset it is part of the ED. It doesn't matter if the cookies you buy are healthy or not you are still only supposed to have 2 of them and then stop. But the ED makes us eat the entire package and then go back to the kitchen to find the next food we can devour. It's a vicious cycle and no diet in the world will cure an ED.

I have learned through years of healing that ED's are coping mechanisms so we don't have to feel. At some point in our lives it became unsafe to express our emotions so we kept them inside. But not feeling is very hard to do so we find a way to cope. Some drink, take drugs and others develop an ED. Binge eating takes all those strong emotions and pushes them down so we don't have to feel them. I had to learn how to feel again. Then I had to learn what each feeling was and express them safely. This was not easy but it was worth it because now I express my emotions rather than eat them or starve them away. It's still a work in progress though as some emotions, such as anger, I still want don't want to feel or express. But I'm getting there and you can too. If you are not already working with a therapist I would urge you to do so.

Red47640 very rude. I mentioned I'm new here and "you've come to the wrong place" is not a nice thing to say to someone who is struggling. You've only made me feel worse, learn some compassion.

Luckyempath thank you for your reply. Yes I resonate with this as it all started when I had something bad happen to me and had an unsupportive bf so I could t express and that's truthfully when I gained all the weight. I feel like I've tried to move past it and I now have a supportive bf but he's really all I have. Haven't thought about a therapist because I don't trust people, that's why I'm on the internet lol but I'll consider it. Again thanks for your help

I'm sorry you had something bad happen to you and that you had such an unsupportive bf. It's very difficult to trust again - I definitely understand that. I have a traumatic past as well. I was sexually abused from 8-12 by a neighbor and my family environment was also very toxic. Expressing feelings was not something that was safe to do in my childhood at all. But in order to find people who are trustworthy you must take that step to trust again. I know it's hard. I really do but please do give it a try. A good therapist can help you heal from any trauma's you have and help you heal the ED. Healing is difficult and painful but I promise you that if you start healing and stick with it your life after healing will be absolutely amazing. And you deserve to have an amazing life!!! :-)

I'm sorry if you think I was rude for being honest with you-- your post offended me personally because you don't seem to get the difference between an eating disorder and Weight Watchers. Why do you learn about an issue before you join its support group.

Red47640 why don't you learn to be supportive before you join a support group. Imo that's a little more important than technicalities.

I'm supportive of people who actually want to recover, and understanding what treatment for eating disorders entails versus what Jenny Craig entails is a bit more than a technicality. Thank you soototallyarii, you just proved my point completely.