Eating Disorders Support Group

Eating disorders are marked by an obsessive need to control the intake and/or purging of food. This community is dedicated to those struggling on the road to recovery. Join to discuss your experience with others and find support. Get advice, ask questions, and meet others who are going through similar struggles.

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danita107
danita107
Hi everyone, I haven't posted here in a long time but I know I need a lot of support to recover from my ED. I'm bulimic and also had binge eating disorder. I also had a bout of aneorexia. I've experienced it all! Lucky me. I've been in therapy for years and finally found a great one. I'm on meds which help. I've recently made a decision that it's time to commit to recovery. I have 2 young kids and I want to tell them one day that I beat this debilitating illness. I don't want them to find me on the floor of my bathroom or have to visit me in an eating disorder unit one day. My husband is semi supportive but of course doesn't get it and when he finds out I've binged/purged he gets angry with me. I just wanted to say hello and I know how it feels. Like it will never get better and we are doomed to misery. I'm here to support all of you too.
eshaw
eshaw
Hi Danita, I am happy you posted after being gone a while. I'm sorry you're still battling this horrible eating disorder. I am around frequently if you ever want to message me. I understand. I think it is a perfect time to get healthy and recover. You need to be healthy for your family. As do I. My daughter has seen me locked up in a unit on a feeding tube and I don't think its a memory she'll ever forget. She worries about me all the time. A burden she shouldn't have to bare. I wish you the best of luck in recovery.
kpsurfersfan
kpsurfersfan
Hi Danita, thanks for posting. Your hubby gets angry probably because the ED on some level scares him and he doesn't know how to help you. My hubby has walked the long hard and painful road of my recovery from an extreme and abusive background which was what drove the depths of my ED (anorexia and at times non-specific BED though I exercised but did not purge).

I've learnt over nearly 2 decades of marriage that guys are wired to be "Mr Fix-Its"! That means their normal default is to hear a problem, then their brain goes into hyper-drive asking how can I fix this and make the pain stop (for me and for her).

Does this make sense?

It's great that you have support in therapy and also the meds. This all helps in my experience. Don't give up; you can make it. Recovery is possible! :)
kathywonders
kathywonders
Im sorry to hear about your problems but happy that you are committed to beating your illness.

Eating disorders are hard on family members. My ex sometimes got angry with me too for my food behaviours. Its not surprising as hed sometimes come home and find "his" food gone and the kitchen cupboards empty. He too was semi supportive but the situation was sometimes extremely difficult for both of us.

Of course your husbands anger is difficult to deal with. Its good that you can talk about it here. Im glad too that you have found a therapist you can talk to. I hope her/his support will help you get back to more and more normal eating and less and less urges to binge/purge. Wishing you all the best!
AnnaB12
AnnaB12
It's good you have a therapist you're happy with and truly want to get better. You can do it :) It can always get better.
forestfreek
forestfreek
Hi Danita!
Your story sounds very similar to mine.
I am too posting after a long while (was here 2007-09) of being gone but recognize I need the support to stop the cycle of binge/purge and live a healthy life.
Good luck and if you need to chat, feel free to message me.
Jen