Having someone know can be helpful, for the extra support. But no matter who you decide to tell, it's really you who is in control of it. Have the faith in you to do what you feel is right in terms of helping you. Listen to the part of you that wants to get better the most. Good luck

Thanks, I guess sometimes it can put the pressure on to show that you are actually struggling, not just faking it, because a lot of people believe you have to be stick thin to have a problem with food, and I guess that's just a bit of a difficulty. Plus, you have that on going knowledge that mum talks about me behind my back to other people, which I really don't like because I like to be in control, and I'm not in control when I don't know exactly what someone is saying about me. But yeah, thankyou

Its okay. Your mum maybe only talks behind your back in asking other people for advice. Or do you feel it's something else?

I know whenever my mum has spoken about me to anyone in a less than nice way shall we say, it's only been out of concern, not malicious. When you really dont want someone to talk about you, it's hard to tell the difference, so i know where you're coming from.

Anyone can have a problem with food, its a tricky thing tbh. And i also think more people have problems with food than we know, a lot of people will just not know what they're doing is abnormal, or will refuse to admit it. The good thing is that you're aware, and actively seeking to get better. Going in the right direction.

I think that having your family involved can be a really important part of recovery, although I think you need to be prepared that they will not always be able to tell you what you (or your eating disorder) wants to hear. Allow them to love and support you, but know that recovery will always still be a personal thing. You need to take ownership of your recovery, because you are the person who will tackle your demons on a day-to-day basis.
Good on you for getting help, and it sounds like even though you are still struggling, you are making great choices, and are well on the way to recovery!
I think it is is important to know that sometimes they may say the wrong thing, and they may frustrate you at times, but it takes someone who has HAD an eating disorder to really understand what it is like. They love you and only want to see you well, and that is a good thing, it just means that sometimes they WILL say things that hurt, and to be honest, I think the harder it is to have an eating disorder, the more reason you will have to choose recovery :)
I still struggle with my disorder, and having a mother who choses to offer me only love in my quest for recovery has been hard, but it also means that I have had to own it :)

Yeah, thankyou. I guess I'm still so embarrassed and ashamed for what I am doing. Like for if they were to know, and I were to be struggling still, or ever again and having them know, it would just give me the biggest amount of regret and shame in myself. Like I'm embarrassing them, and being such a let down to them, like she's had cancer twice and all I'm doing is wasting my life and wasting her money with food :(

Jon, I think when she talks I guess its just updating people, she's always wanting to say everything about everyone, and this is something she doesn't keep quiet, though some stuff she does yes, and I could trust her with the world, more than anyone else I could ever trust, but its still hard since she has such a personality switch between her, not only when I've been sick, but long before than too.

Nicole, that is so great to hear that you HAD not still do. That gives hope to the rest of us, you'll be such an inspiration to us all! Like Marya Hornbacher, my favourite author and inspirational speaker, says 'Recovery is definitely possible' as she has proved to us all, the whole world has seen that it is definitely possible, and so have you :') I'm so proud of you! You've got a long and happy life ahead of you I bet, wish you all the best in everything you do!! :) x

I am so so proud of you. As you know I am a mom of a daughter with anorexia. Trust me, I have been accused of talking about my daughter to others but honestly, it was only for support. I am sure you have a loving mother. Forgive us because it is so painful to watch a loved one suffer. And as many people here have said, recovery will be your journey. Communication greatly reduces the anxiety on the part of the loved one. Not that you have to tell everything, but certainly share any progress. Also learn to express when you are struggling. A mother will do her best to love you along the way. You have so much to be proud of yourself for. I am no expert, and I know you have rocky days but you are progressing. You have come such a long way since we first started communicating. I am very proud of you. And I believe in you. And It has been said, if you can beat this, everything else you do in life will seem easy by comparison. Sending love. xxx

Thanks Beth, I really appreciate that. And yes, all a mother wants to do is love their children, they try to do whatever they can to make us feel better, but like in everything, they are people too, and they can't be perfect. I've not always been the best communicator, I've been really trying to work on it hard the past few years, though I'm still as anxious and as shy as anything. I'm back at uni now, but I can barely even speak to the tutors to ask questions anymore :( But yes, this is going to be a rocky road, but will lead me down the journey of success xxx