Eating Disorders Support Group

Eating disorders are marked by an obsessive need to control the intake and/or purging of food. This community is dedicated to those struggling on the road to recovery. Join to discuss your experience with others and find support. Get advice, ask questions, and meet others who are going through similar struggles.

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Unsteady18 01/12/2017

I have a diagnosis of anorexia and getting treatement but once i finaly got therapy it turned into bulmia. I am now not binge eating and purging so much and not trying to restrict to much. But i still do things that will make me lose weight.

I feel now that i have this diagnosis of anorexia that i need to be stick thin. To prove to my family i havent gave up with my illness and still in control. The label ive been given is stopping me ? Is that messed up?

LP0126 01/12/2017

Many professionals believe EDs flow along a continuum with few being purely anorexia, bulimia etc. I too struggle w a primary diagnosis of anorexia but have significant purging behaviors. I struggle feeling that pure anorexia must be the only "real" ED and that unless I'm underweight and near death I can't have a valid ED. I try to get away from a specific diagnosis because then I too feel unqualified to be anorexic more often than not, It helped me to hear that many anorexics turn to bulimic tendencies etc. I also like the term "restrictive eating disorder" because to me it conveys the behavior is geared towards restriction but has "reactive eating" behaviors

I'm also in the same spot as feeling I need to be thinner to ask for help or else family etc won't think I'm sick enough. My question for you that has been asked of me is "what is sick enough? What would it mean to be sick enough?" If that is a statement you feel is pertinent to you.

Lastly, I try to remember that the basis of EDs is the obsession over food, shape, need for control, etc and that no matter our intake, our size or our behaviors we ALL are miserable living in this disease. We are all equal in that regard.

Message me if you'd like to talk more I'd be happy to. This is a topic that is my current biggest challenge so great one to bring to the group

shortysena1 01/13/2017

It's normal to feel that way. I do. Sometimes I think it shouldn't be diagnosed in someway. After we hear it we think other won't believe you unless you really thin. I have a lot of people who did this to me.

Unsteady18 01/13/2017

Thank you both so very much for your replies. Nice to read that its normal. Cause i knew turning bulimic after anorexia was but thought this was a bit odd. Ive never felt so bad and people think im better cause im not thin now.

Debwater 01/14/2017

I would be so, so afraid and scared if I looked stick thin. That is so healthy. Do you want to be healthy or look scarey? Anyways I hope you gain self control over this illness. I lose self control over gambling so I can relate to having frustration and pain.

Unsteady18 01/14/2017

I use to think i looked healthy and good. And i sometimes wish to go back but i know deep down it looks unhealthy to be that thin. Such a horrible blinded illness. Hope you gain control over your gambling

Dancinggirl 01/14/2017

I am sorry you are having a hard time with this. Lots of hugs Laya

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