I hear you on this. I am at the highest point in my normal range right now, and I wish I could go back to starving and being unhealthy to be skinny. But the truth is that it will just come back to bite you in the butt. You will literally kill off your metabolism. I'm sorry your fiance doesn't realize how her comments are affecting you. Tell her that it may be part of the cycle, but you are certainly not crazy and since you are trying to be well, it is not helpful for you to hear her talk negatively about her body all the time. Tell her she's beautiful the way she is. It's always hard for an eating disordered person to be around someone who trashes their body all the time, especially when that person is not overweight, but you can't put up with it or else it will really harm your progress.

Hi there. Alright, so you are in a same sex relationship? I only ask b/c I think this makes it all that more harder. Especially in females. Although I have known plenty of opposite sex relationships where it is just as difficult. What do you mean people are talking negatively about your weight? B/c you gained weight over the past few years?Old ways are only a "quick fix" if that. I am stuck in my old ways and let me just tell you, it's not working. Your metabolism will basically tell you to go F-off eventually, or your body will. You are NOT crazy, it could very well be a cycle. Question: How do YOU feel about YOU? Forget everyone else, YOU. Keep trying to eat right, this too takes a while to learn how to do, I am trying everyday to try to learn to eat right. Try your hardest not to take the easiest way out, it truly makes a big boo boo on relationships. Especially in engagements, speaking for myself. We're here to listen and offer support and advice should you ask for it. :)

Thanks for your support. Family and friends are talking about my weight because I have gained a lot of weight. So I am bigger than I should be for my hight. I tottally understand you guys about it being a "quick fix". It is true. It is really hard. Since I get frusterated because I went to college and I minored in Health. I know about eating right, exercise and everything. I can help people change there eatting habbits and life style. For me it may sound stupid but I dont know how to do it for myself. I only know the Anorexic and Bulimic ways.
I eally dont like my body but I am trying everyday to change that. I try to say 5 positive things a day about my body. Im trying and at times I feel like Im dying inside.
Yes I am in a same-sex relationship. I have expressed my feelings about her talking about her body and weight and even she has come to counseling with me to talk about it so that she understands my perspective and also I know hers. I dont tell her how beautiful she is and how she is just awesome. I love her soooo much. So I dont know. sigh. but something will come of it. thanks for listening.

Hi honey,
I'm very sorry that I'm triggering things for you. I will work on things myself. I hope things get better for you. I'm really sorry. I want you to know that you are beautiful and I'll try to help you as much as i can. I love you.

Hey sweetie, I completely understand how you feel. I'm at the highest weight I've ever been, and my family isn't exactly very supportive either. But, as much as you want to go back to your old ways, do your best not to. Its not worth it. It will only destroy both your body and the relationships you have with people, and thats never a good thing. My ex girlfriend was bulimic as well, and she was always thinner than me, so I get how hard that can be. Just tell her that she really needs to support you in this and to stop making such comments, because it really isn't good for all the progress you've made.

When you relapse, EDs only get harder to recover from. Don't let negative thoughts take you back to such a vicious cycle. Just try to eat healthy and workout regularly. (easier said than done, I know.) It will take awhile to get into the habit, but it will be worth it.

I will say it again to yet another person..... if it was about weight it would actually be easy wouldnt it???

you have to discover the reasons behind your issues to move forward... yes you have gained weight.... but obsessing over it only makes it worse... keep fighting hard... you can lose weight the healthy slow happy way.... if you can figure out how to get happy....