Idk of what help I can be but I can only give you my opinion.And tell you that I speak from experience. When I was in H.S. and had Anorexia which I had when Karen Carpenter was on people mag. Anyway my Mom said to me if you don't watch it you're gonna end up like that girl! AndI said inside my head " it's too late"! So anyway I used to intentionally be running late so that I didn't have time for Breakfast. But my Mom I think knew what I was doing. And made me get up earlier so I would have time. And I totally resented it! It just re-confirmed to me that I needed to restrict even more. It was then that I started skipping lunch at school.And when I could get rid of my supper, I did. So I guess what I'm saying is it is really NOT A Good Idea! Imo As much as they want to help you they're going to end up making it worse. Imo. You NEED to have someone who isn't so close to you. Imo. I'm sure that as good as her intentions are they can do nothing but hurt your relationship. Imo.I believe that she can help you by being encouraging to you. This is how I feel although my situation is different. If my husband tries to control me or makes snide comments about my eating then I won't to.spite him. And that's how it was w/ my Mom.I don't want this to ruin your relationship w/ your Mom and make you resent her and her control over you. I hope that I've helped. Take Care and God Bless (((( hugs)))) ps does your Family know that you're on here? If she knows then if you want to you can show this to her.ok? Good Luck

I'm no expert but I thought that the maudsley approach involved family along with a therapist. Maybe do some googling to double check.

Yeah Emma, I'm pretty sure its meant to be alongside a professional and that's why its really annoying me that mum thinks she can just do it with absolutely no qualifications or experience in the field.

Yeah, I think the same as you, not just because I am in the situation of having all of my control taken off me and not being able to do anything without my parents monitoring it and my mum is definitely not going to let me stop doing this, its infuriating, how can I live life with so little to no control in anything anymore.. I hate it, plus they said they are going to help me maintain the weight I was, but I'm still binging when they go to bed and have gained heaps :'( Seeing my psychologist tomorrow anyway, not going to bother with the GP really anymore but yeah, will see if she can help me out at all, although she is finishing up working there like next week :/

I recently read "Brave Girl Eating" by Harriet Brown, where she describes using the Maudley approach in treating her anorexic daughter. A paediatrician and therapist were also involved and it was important for the parents to have outside support. As someone who used to suffer from anorexia the Maudsley approach sounds as though it would be tough - but when you feel you need to restrict your eating and fear weight gain, any treatment whatsoever will be tough. I went on to develop other eating disorders that really messed up 20 years of my life - and have left scars. As scary as it sounds its worthwhile doing something about your problem now. I would have thought you and your mum would both need professional support but then I dont know your mum. Id say youre lucky if your mum wants to feed you healthy food as so often eating disorder sufferers are forced to eat "treats" and junk food. Whatever your mum is like, whatever your relationship and however healthy food she provides the journey ahead is going to be difficult for you all. I cant give any concrete advice but I wish you well.

Thanks Kathy, yeah from what I've read myself its usually in line with guidelines from professionals like a dietitian doing meal plans to help be given and stuff like that. But yeah, I think my mums been having some of her own issues which were quite obviously noticed in the way she was dealing with the whole situation and so on. For now she has stopped this way of dealing with my eating disorder as I think my dad had confronted her about the way she was going with things. I am going to continue monitoring my food intake though to make sure I am trying to keep on track as much as possible and making sure I'm not eating too much, having binges or having a really unhealthy unbalanced diet, which can be really triggering in controlling my purging, but on the other hand not letting myself skip meals or have too lower calories into getting myself unwell again. I'm seeking help with my GP and psychologist and starting a Mental Health Care Plan and getting a referral to a dietitian that I asked for to help me control my diet as well.

Its great to see youre being active in getting support and help. You are well informed and your awareness of eating disorder issues can help too. When I was started suffering in the late 1970s there was no internet and no information around - at least not in my neck of the woods! But remember that you and your situation are unique so other peoples issues and approaches dont necessarily apply to you.

Do you know of Arielle and Wednesday Warriors (Youtube)? Arielle has a lot of words of wisdom that can be supportive.

Hope you have a good eating day!

I haven't heard of them before, but I will check them out, thanks for that.

I see how yes, other than those negative sites people can go on these days, there are also so many positive things online and so widely and freely available to help you out in wherever you might be struggling in.

You're right that not one simple fix is possible or the same for everyone, its just hard to find that one thing that can help me out and figure out what I can do and what others can do to help me get out of this yo-yoing and hole, and to just move on with my life.

Thanks Kathy, really means a lot and I too hope I have a good eating day as well. You do too! :)

This is a decent site that has info about what Maudsley really is and what it isn't: http://www.maudsleyparents.org/whatismaudsley.html

It IS supposed to be supportive and it doesn't sound like your mom's comments are at all supportive. It DOES involve professionals, esp a counselor, but a Dr and a dietician would also be really helpful.

I'd esp say that a dietitian should be involved in your case, as your mom's 1000 cal daily limit is WAY too low to be healthy, and will just slow your metabolism down and make you constantly hungry, which can lead to binging. And not allowing any junk food is also not good.

No, you shouldn't be eating a lot of junk, but NORMAL HEALTHY eating does include some stuff that isn't super healthy, and being too restrictive of any type or amount of food tends to drive an ED and make it stronger, and it definitely does not allow you to learn what normal eating is about.

It's great that your mom knows about your ED and wants to help, but she is not following the Maudsley protocol and she is too close to you....she needs to get professionals involved for both of your benefits......plus, EDs are not just about food or about weight. That is a symptom and the underlying issues need to be addressed, which is another reason it is so important to involve a counselor....and those underlying issues are part of the Maudsley approach, too.