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im just gonna not talk or answer questions..(vent)

Itzjustme
Itzjustme
im not talking about this or answering questions when people ask me why im losing so much weight..anymore...no one understands and im so sick and tired of feeling like the idiot that wont eat..that knows shes destroying her body and killing herself but doesnt try to help herself. im tired of being a disapppointment...i just wanna do my own things and be invisible. i dont do wat i do for anyone else...this is for me and its not like its not working ...

its not like im going around punching everyon ein the face or telling off someone all my frusterations, anger sadness disappointments stay on the inside and i go along with watever. i dont bother people..im not saying they bother me but they get on my case and then express disappointment...

:(
mybeach
mybeach
It's hard when they don't understand, just as we don't understand them. They ask bc they care, they just usually go about it in a less than helpful way. It would be great for each of us to know what support we needed and then be able to get it from our families. Unfortunately, it seems to rarely work out that way. I know my family doesn't have any idea what to say or how to help so they just don't ever say a word. Some days I would love it if they would just talk to me, but oh well. No matter what anyone wants, when it comes to others actions, we can't control them. We have to expect disappointment, explanations, etc. that is part of what will hopefully motivate to change. You can't be invisible, no matter what. I wish I could offer more than support. Have you tried talking to your family and letting them know how their questions make you feel? It may not "fix" the issue but maybe help to get some things out in the open.

Also, you may think you are hiding your feelings well, but just becasue you are not voicing them does not mean they are not coming across. ED is so isolating and this is just another way he exerts his control.. he plays us against the ones we love and that love us too.
Itzjustme
Itzjustme
thank u for replying to my post...actuallly my family isnt the one whose tries to ask questions about my weight...they ridicule me and say i do thid on purpose...

its my really close teacher friends....and they try to understand but i dont know how to explain so they dont get it...they say i could lose weight in a healthy way wich i know but i like it thi0s way and they dont get why im making myself suffer wen i dont have to.."im not tht big" that another thing that word "that" before big tells me im fat but im not like obese.

i tried to explain to my famil that the way they talk to me makes me wanna kill myself but they laugh and go its not ther problem.
birdie123
birdie123
Oh I wish people could learn to mind their own business. Fortunatly I don't have a family that ridicule me. But also reference in any way - usually an innocent comment that no one without an ED would even notice - we interpret as meaning we are fat. It is so triggering and makes us need to lose more.

I understand how hard it is. Take care and stay strong.
Itzjustme
Itzjustme
thank u birdie for understanding..yeah i know they dont know and so they say things like they would say to anyone else