Ok I know your angry and frustrated and I in most ways agree with you. This is a support site after all.

However, when people are asking for 'tips' it IS still apart of the e/d. They have to be pretty desperate and pretty scared to be asking. I am sure we have all been there. You may be on the road to recovery right now but I am sure there was a time when you were all consumed by your e/d and did not want to give it up even though there was a small oart if you that knew it was wrong.
Many of the sufferers are at that point here.

If we see a topic where it seems the persom is asking for tips, is it not more helpful to suggest healthier options to them and just simply DONT give them tips.

I will admit there have been times when I have been sitting at the leptop, fingers trembling, heart racing and tears falling, absolutly terrified because my weight was not going down and the despiration was SO FIERCE that it was all I could do to ask for 'help' through 'tips'. Thankfully the kind people on DS didn't give me any just other suggestions and those feelings passed if even only a little.

If I read this message at that time, I would have been so humiliated and embarrassed on top of the feelings I already had, I probably would have looked it up on the internet in secret which would have been more damaging and dangerous..

Your right, its not fair for the people who are trying to get better or are getting triggered. All we can ask is that we ALL put Trigger Warnings in our titles if we think it maybe triggering.

Please remember we are ALL suffering even those of us who are not yet on the road to recovery.

recovery takes a long time and while on the road thers relaspe...i guess people asking for tips dont arent pro ana or mia they just hit a bump so they post here where they can get support....but alot of them wanna recover....its not really there fault....eating disorder has a strong influence on our brain and sometimes we cant control our actions....but i think when we see that we should talk to them and offer support to avoid going into a relaspe...or just dont answer

hotwheelz, I'm sorry if your upset mood in this post was spurred on in any way by my previous post entitled "Is this an eating disorder RECOVERY group?" I admit I was a little worked up myself in that post and may have come off a little harsh to people looking for tips. I understand how upsetting and triggering it can be sometimes. I had let it get to me that day. I'm sure they don't mean to offend any of us. Sometimes they just can't see beyond their desperation, just as facarde mentioned. I know I've been there. I'm pretty sure most of us with eating disorders have at one time of another. I was merely asking for clarification on the purpose of this group, and warning of the dangers of enabling.

I'd like to say that I think that everyone should be welcome here, because maybe people in a desperate spot can be swayed by those of us who are feeling stronger that day to do something good for themselves. Lead by example, I say. By having boundaries, looking out for trigger warnings and standing strong with our own healthy views, we could not only help ourselves, but perhaps also influence otherse to a healthier happier way. I want to say, hotwheelz, thank you for being brave enough to speak your mind and get these things off of your chest. I was afraid to post my thoughts on this matter as well for fear of offending anyone. Take care :)

the ones who want to stay sick need the support more than ever to find the will to respect themselves to want to get better.

Well Said Mush15.....Love the name bytheway!

thankyou :) i totally i agree with your comment x

hotwheelz i see where you're coming from, but you don't run this group. you even say "this should be a safe place to vent" and thats what a lot of people are doing. if there is a TW in the title of the post then just don't read it, and I feel like that goes for everyone who is upset with some of the recent posts. and to people who are struggling greatly and maybe asking/saying triggering things please consider putting TW in your title so people who are in vulnerable postistions can avoid them.

WD i agree with you completely! if i know that im venting about my behavior or that ir could trigger other ill put a TW in the title....but ur right its not fair for hotwheelz to just say that people wh odo this shouldnt be in the group cuz she isnt the boss of this group and this makes people feel less safe on here to post and ask questions.

Guys you already know my views I have put them up here already but lets take it easy on Hot Wheels lololol.

Shes probably scared too. We ALL know how difficult it is to 'stay on the waggon' and she was probably worried that she would be triggered and fall 'off the waggon'.

Lets just rmember that we are ALL suffering, we all need support and sometimes we can say things that sound worse because we are emotional at the time. So please guys as I said, lets take it easy on Hot Wheels and ourselves.