Eating Disorders Support Group

Eating disorders are marked by an obsessive need to control the intake and/or purging of food. This community is dedicated to those struggling on the road to recovery. Join to discuss your experience with others and find support. Get advice, ask questions, and meet others who are going through similar struggles.

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jasgall 10/09/2011

hi. i told my mom about EDNOS 2 weeks ago. and then, at her bday lunch, she spent about half the time talking about losing weight and dieting. this was AFTER i sent her a detailed e-mail about it. when i asked her to stop, she just said "oh." i keep applying for writing joibs, but nothing yet. evey paycheck seems to go out to everyone but me. t-mobile is charging me an arm and a leg. i have no idea why. i can't wait to get out of my contract. dad made me chicken alfredo yesterday. i can't eat it. i don't know how many calories are in it. i've been chewing/spitting a lot. please somebody talk to me. my NP is doing bloodwork tomorrow. (routine. my thyroid is underactive.) i have another appointment with her next tuesday. i asked for a referral to a nutritionist. i wanted to do it when i asked her, but now i'm scared. i don't know if i want a food plan. i hate my body. and i know i shouldn't because god made me, and he doesn't make mistakes. but i just don't wanna be fat anymore. i haven't eaten anything today. HELP

deleted_user 10/10/2011

Oh honey. I wish I could just give you a big hug. I don't know what to tell you about your mom. However, I think going to a nutritionist would be a great idea. What have you got to lose? A nutritionist wouldnt only give you a meal plan but he/she can educate you on the things you want to eat to maintain a healthy body. He/She can tell you things about food you never knew. Also a lot of the times, it isn't much about what you eat as in how much. However, often times once you take one bite you don't want to stop. I am like that, which is why I fear certain foods. Either way, I think you should ask for a referral to a nutritionist. After meeting with one, you can always choose whether of not you want to follow the meal plan. I love you Fallon, never forget that.

deleted_user 10/10/2011

One thing I learned when I started real recovery is that family will never be able to communicate properly about our ED. For one, they can never understand what we are going to unless they have gone through an addiction of their own. Second, their love (which is genuine, even when it is hard to tell) muddles their minds so that even if we tell them and even show them how they should be communicating with us, they just can't. I have 2 parents, 4 brothers, 2 aunts, and 4 cousins who I talk to on a regular basis. Out of this group of 12, only one brother comes even close.

So try to take it for what it is worth. Ignore what she actually says and do what you need to do to get better. Listen to professionals (therapists and nutritionists) when it comes to food, behavior, and thinking. Just imagine your mom is saying the right things and ignore what she actually says. That's what I do and it works pretty well.

Fig4 10/12/2011

Hi. I can tell you that you're on the right path. Are you taking a thyroid supplement? Speaking to a nutritionist is aan excellent idea..it will give you a good idea about what kind of foods will help you, and how much of them to eat. You needent be afrqaid--no one will make you do anything.

jasgall 10/12/2011

no, i'm not taking a supplement. i'm on levothyroxin,

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