I remember those days of my grandmother doing saying similar things to me. She never got the eating disorder and would push the negative comments. There is a friend of mine that says to look yourself in the mirror, into your eyes, and say, "I deserve to be joyful, loved, and respected." Some days it is easier to believe than others. Some days I just look down at my hands and say it, because I can't look in the mirror.

well i understand you. but it's hard that i don't see what everyone else does when they look at me. And i do try everyday and i really want to believe in myself.

I believe that you do. It is just something that is hard to do. It's a long road. The one thing that shows you love yourself, at least a little bit, you're willing to try to open yourself up even more to the joy you can hold inside.

I think sometimes we are able to more easily see the beauty in others than in ourselves, which is so sad to me.

Don't envy other girls, don't try to look or act like them, there is no point. There is only one of you, and you are so precious, so why try to become a copy of someone else when you have your own beauty?

Try to focus on the things you like about yourself (easier said than done, I know) instead of the flaws, try to remember that the little things you may not like about yourself, others probably don't even notice.

I know what you're talking about to extent, like there was a certain standard other girls around me had in my school years ago. And it weighed on me really bad and forced me to lose 60 pounds to feel normal and be "pretty" and so I did that and it did help but I too struggled with an eating disorder therefore no matter how thin I was I didn't quite believe that I was thin enough because these petite girls who had bodies built completely different than mine was what I compared myself too. I'm Hispanic I have thighs no matter how skinny I am! I wasn't fat I knew I was thick and so I would have days where I felt beautiful and days I felt good being 130-135 then other days when I'm like.....if only I was 120 etc etc etc. You know I wanted that model body and I wanted the "thigh gap" soooo badly. These little silly things we have affixations about are fucking comical if you think about it. We know it's ridiculous but our illness makes us believe otherwise. It's never good enough but you have to realize that it's not your reality. You're reality is that you believe you're not good enough but that's just your opinion and perception. You are good enough to the people around you because most likely you are the only one that sees a problem. You must remember that things should change from the inside out before they change from the outside in. Because it's your mentality and not your body that's the problem.