Eating Disorders Support Group

Eating disorders are marked by an obsessive need to control the intake and/or purging of food. This community is dedicated to those struggling on the road to recovery. Join to discuss your experience with others and find support. Get advice, ask questions, and meet others who are going through similar struggles.

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valgal18 09/19/2013

i went to work today-i work with kids-and one kids said,"why is your tummy so big??" and i just shrugged and said,"because.." inside i was crying and felt so bad about myself....ED chimed in and said,"if he can see it, others can too...they just don't say it out loud....remember that if you restrict you can lose weight.....think about it..." and i remembered a few weeks ago, i was restricting and then only eating dinner...i don't wanna go on a bad road or start to go down a bad road....what should i do??? how do i conquer these thoughts???

deleted_user 09/19/2013

Remind your self that to take care of other little ones you have to be strong and healthy, a small child doesn't understand and will forget the next day. I was asked if I was pregnant because I seem stressed and have started a new relationship same time gotten to a normal weight recently, people that see me usually see a very slim me and now that I'm healthy.. It sucks. I'm sorry for the pain and frustration.

mahalarose 09/19/2013

You tell the thoughts where to f-ing go! Little kids don't know what they are saying. Don't restrict because you deserve to be healthy.

deleted_user 09/21/2013

Am sorry this happened to you. Children don't intend to hurt us but sometimes they do. I have been asked by adults too, if I was pregnant. Not nice to hear :(
Only eating dinner is not a good way to go, in the end you will gain weight and not lose it. Do you have help/therapy? If so, perhaps you can bring it up there. And if not, is it possible to get it?
Please remember you are already good the way you are, and people don't see your tummy or your ED, they see YOU, as a person.
If you can, please don't restrict, other than leaving out the really unhealthy foods like fries etc.
Best of luck, am thinking of you.

sarasota34233 09/25/2013

I am sorry! The reality is that when we regain weight we tend to gain it first in our tummies and in our face. It does redistribute over time. Remind yourself of all the GOOD things that recovery has brought (or is bringing) to your life and of all the BAD things that being active in your disorder brought to your life. Talk to your therapist or your nutritionist if you have one...if you don't have one or both, think about it. You are beautiful just the way you are.

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