Eating Disorders Support Group

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help with daughter

alijoezack
alijoezack
its so hard to watch her struggle and sit hit somewhat powerless. she atleast told me she has a problem and i have brought her to councelor weekly. just wish there was an overnight cure. i dont want to push her but she doesnt listen to advice but will call or when shes home will go on and on and on about how fat she is ugly loser. she will lie on the floor after bingeing and do 500 situps. not sure what to do on this end. she was up at mindnight sleep walking and eating saying she was hungry. she is so much like me and im trying not to loose it but love her so much and want to help her. she doesnt have an ounce of fat on her body and is extremely fit and active but i just want the girl to love herself.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Hi... It is great you came here for support. I am struggling with an eating disorder myself and have been for 10 years now. I just went into my first treatment of higher level last year. It did help a bit but I am not back into my eating disorder. You should probably check out high level of cares with that is inpatient/residential/ or partial hospitlization. I would recommend one of these. This next week I will be going to treatment once again. I have realized I do need the help and I have to take care of myself. Right now though I am having second thoughts but trying to staying postive. I have been to eating receovery center in Denver, Colorado and now I am going to be at castlewood in St. Louis Missouri. Each treatment center is a bit different on the approach. Please get help for your daughter before it is to late.

Feel free to message me if you wanna talk more, I hope this helped you a bit.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I agree that you should send your daughter to either an inpatient/residential/ or partial hospital. As a teenager, possibly around the age of your daughter, I would also recommend that you constantly tell her how much you love her. If you're already doing this than do it even more! Sometimes when we get so wrapped up in our eating disorders, that we forget that other people care about us and love us. Make sure that no matter what, you're daughter knows how much you love her. I know that it would definitely help if my parents told me they loved me more often.
alijoezack
alijoezack
thank you both so much. the residential treatment just scared the shit out of me. i tell her many times a day i love her and that she is beautiful and amazing. im trying help her without blaming myself because she is all me. i will talk to her councelor tomorrow. i usually wait out in waiting area but dont think my daughter is telling her all there is to tell. thanks again i appreciate your advice
deleted_user
deleted_user
Higher level of care sounds like it maybe needed. I think it would be a good idea to talk to her therapist and tell her everything you are seeing. Does she have a team of professionals? Like therapist/dietition/
psychiatrist/ and a medical doctor? Please do not blame yourself as this is nothing that you did at all. It is a disease and this disease can kill if it isn't treated.
alijoezack
alijoezack
we first met with her doctor couple months ago she sent us to therapist. the therapist said she should see a nutritionist. i need to talk to therapist more i always wait in waiting room and dont get any feedback.