Eating Disorders Support Group

Eating disorders are marked by an obsessive need to control the intake and/or purging of food. This community is dedicated to those struggling on the road to recovery. Join to discuss your experience with others and find support. Get advice, ask questions, and meet others who are going through similar struggles.

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charmingdisaster 03/21/2013

Ok, so I am in a therapy group for women recovering from eating disorders. I was going every week but then new people kept coming in and I have a serious social anxiety issue so it is hard for me to open up and be completely honest to a group of strangers. So I hadn't gone for about a month because of my work schedule. I went back last week and there was a couple that I recognized and everyone seemed so close to each other. Also to note, most of the girls there were teens and I am 28. There was a lot of immaturity going on. And I was not having it. I am a successful person in the business world in this particular community and I am not going to play along in the silliness. I felt like I can't believe I spend money on this when I left. Yet I am feeling guilty for not going now. But I can't afford to keep going to something that I do not feel is helping me. I do not know what to do.

deleted_user 03/21/2013

I don't think it hurt to let know they were wasting your money and more important your life and well being

deleted_user 03/22/2013

Before you make any decisions, assess the situation without judgment. What was really going on in the room and what stories you might be telling yourself that are causing you these feelings. Before you make any decision, attend the next meeting with an open mind and carefully assess what is going on. Also, ask yourself what role you may have played in the group. Each group member has a responsibility to themselves first. Be a responsible group member yourself (attend meetings regularly regardless of your work schedule) and re-direct the group if you need to to help you meet your needs. If this is beyond your control, then bring it up to the therapist who is in charge and voice your concerns, but always check with yourself first.

charmingdisaster 03/23/2013

I plan to go this week to group and give it another chance. We will see what I decide on from there. I will keep you all updated.

jonroland 03/25/2013

The most important thing i feel is to surround yourself with people you trust. Even if they are immature, if they have good hearts and want to help you, you should accept them.

There are a lot of mature people i know i dont trust as far as i can throw, and more immature people who are more naive but more helping.

deleted_user 03/28/2013

I feel for you. I am desperately looking for a support group for women. Hang in there and sit down and calmly think through to what your instints are telling you. If it is still undecided try writing down on paper a list the pros and cons. This helps me sometimes. Good luck, I am pulling for you.

charmingdisaster 03/28/2013

Thank you all so much. I went to group tonight and it went well. I have fallen off the wagon so bad and they r so supportive. I haven't eaten for 2 days and before that I was at less than 500 calories.

jonroland 03/28/2013

Congrats : ) sometimes the most least likely people are the most helpful.

I hope you feel like you can eat a little more now, or have started climbing back on that wagon x

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