It will absolutely get better. The beginning of explaining to people can be tricky, and people re act differently. For instance, my best friend didn't have much to say at all, wheras my Dad had a ton of helpful stories. Neither response was expected.

Its a shock to them right now, in time they'll understand better about how to support you. As far as what they think will fix it, a lot of people who dont know better about ED's might think that, it's not their fault.

Give them some information on it, and they'll come around.
As far as you, can i ask how you are? and what you're trying to do to help yourself?

Hope you're okay x

I have been worse and I've been better. Right now not feeling so great mainly because of the chaos brought about by me telling people. My first step was to tell people. Now i'm working on finding a treatment plan. I have started a 60 day online program on a Christian site. It's sort of to help with the spiritual healing side of things. I still need to take care of finding help with the medical and emotional parts though. Right now it feels really hard to talk to people about it. I actually lost a friend because of it. I thought he would be one of my biggest supporters but instead he turned his back on me. Everyone else I think is just in shock. I think I have cried more in the last week than I ever have before. Thanks jonroland. You know you are the first person to actually ask me how I am.

no need to thank me, i know what it feels like to think nobody cares.

dont worry about crying, sometimes you just need it. afterwards you always feel a little more prepared anyway i think.
you took a lot of really big steps, thats great. you showed courage to yourself and your family, and that shows everyone that your brave enough to beat this.

a lot of people want to get better, but psycologically they're not ready to be better. most people dont have it to just win. otherwise we'd have a world full of world champions at everything lol.

are you sick of this now? i know you're probably tired and weary of people now, and scared and contemplating giving into it over and over..but are you ready to fight back now?

Cause i dont think you would've told anyone, or joined this site today, if you weren't...

I'm scared of not being there for my children some day. I'm scared of what anorexia could do to me and the people I care about. I'm sick of hiding it and sick of it controlling me. I don't just want to beat this I NEED to beat this. I need to be ok for me and for my loved ones. I came on here hoping to find people who understand and find friends that I could talk to who would get it. I don't want to feel alone in this anymore.

Well to quote Michael Jackson, " You Are Not Alone "

(lol sorry i heard that song today and im tired as i write this)

As far as being alone, i was actually near asleep when i opened back up the laptop to see if you replied so i could try and help, so it's not much, and i cant offer you a magic cure or answer, but you're not completely alone in this.

Good. you have reasons. Damn good reasons to get through this. It will beat you down and keep you there, but you have to tell yourself to get up now. Now. Not next week sometime, tiny little steps can start today. You've already took a massive leap recently, and i'm proud.
But when you wake up tomorrow, maybe think about reading some anorexia recovery stories. Infact i watched a vid lately that you might find helpful. I'll send it when i find it again.
Also start learning more about food. My brother is a doctor of dietetics, so i know how much it counts for. What food does for us, what it does for out hormones, muscles, our hair, skin, looks, feelings...it pratically dictates who we are.

But then their's that fine line of letting it define who are you, and nothing has the right to define you but you now.

Thats what you should do tomorrow, take that baby step.

So i found out my friends are now discussing my "issue" (as they have begun calling it) behind my back. :( wish they'd just come to me to ask about me and not go sneaking around asking each other things i've said :(

Do some research and see if there is a counsellor or program near where you live that specializes in eating disorders. Even if you don't use them for treatment, they may be able to offer a session to help explain what eating disorders are to family and friends. My treatment program offers this several times a year, and although I haven't had anyone participate from my family, I think it's a very, very good thing. It can be hard to understand eating disorders unless you have BEEN there.

Thanks music. we are having our pastor come to meet with us and maybe find some direction. I have looked into what is in my area... haven't found anything yet.

@jonroland, Of course its not your fault that you are in middle of eating disorder. You don't need to explain the public about hoe you feel. They will surely understand your situation if they really care about you. As per the words of http://www.bellwood.ca/eating-disorders/ "with the right program and support, eating disorders can be successfully treated" . If you take part in such a treatment there will be no worries thinking about how the people think about you.

No they don't understand of course just eating sounds good but to us it can be seem impossible. We really should not expect them to understand what we have trouble understanding ourselves. My son once had a real nice girl friend when he found out she had an ED he dropped her because he new what a hard thing it was to deal with because of me. Some people just cant deal.Groups have helped me the most in the past try to find one if you can.

I'm sorry that you lost a friend 820bug. I have lost many friends over my many issues. It just shows that they don't want to put their time in to helping others, only themselves.
I developed disordered eating around 5 months ago. My parents, especially my Mum were mad at me but now they just ask how I am and if I would like to eat. I do look after myself as best I can and they've seen that and that's what made them cut me some slack.
I find family always eventually come around.

Have you seen anyone about your ED? My Dad comes to all my appointments and that's what made him more understanding.
I hope you seek professional help and have other support with friends/family as well.
Good luck.

I haven't seen my doc yet and haven't found a treatment program in my area. we have our pastor coming on tues. I'm actually kinda freaking out. I don't know what to say or how to say it. I honestly just wanna force feed and pretend like I dont feel the way I do but I know that if I don't get this taken care of the right way I am always going to have those feelings

I know it's hard to open up. Try not to plan what you'll say. It's hard to plan as we don't know what the person we'll be talking to might say. Just start talking from anywhere. It'll all come out somehow that way. This is how I plan to do it when I finally see an eating disorder specialist. I have an appointment but its far away.
And you are right. You know it's better to get help and that's already a step in the right direction. Good luck!