Eating Disorders Support Group

Eating disorders are marked by an obsessive need to control the intake and/or purging of food. This community is dedicated to those struggling on the road to recovery. Join to discuss your experience with others and find support. Get advice, ask questions, and meet others who are going through similar struggles.

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JustHelpJustine49 02/08/2017

For as long as I remember whenever I have been upset or even simply being bored I have ate my troubles away. Just recently I have been diagnosed with Binge Eating Disorder. Now I am still young and of course with this you can obviously assume that I am pretty overweight. I wanted to know if there is anyone who knows how to curb this curse. I am a mere 21 and I already have cronic back pain because of my weight and yet even though I know that it is bad for me and terribly unhealthy and with every bit of food that I put into my mouth will just cause more pain in the end I still eat anyway. I grow bigger as each day goes and whenever I look into the mirror I hate myself more and more while I look at the fat cow starring back. My mother always says that if I hate it so much then I have to get on my feet and go work out or to eat healthier, to do this and to do that. Yet.... even though I know all of this, I know so much from nutrition classes and research I have done on my own that this isn't healthy and that I should stop... I still do it.... It just becomes an endless cycle. I'm upset. I eat. I become more upset. I eat some more. I look in the mirror and become more upset. I eat some more. What do I do?

Time2livelife 02/08/2017

Do u have a therapist? Cbt sounds worth a try. Sorry dont have much other advice. Hugs.

LuckyEmpath 02/08/2017

I can relate to every word you have written here and I am very sorry that you feel this way.

When you were diagnosed with BED did anyone suggest a therapist for you? If not, I would urge you to find a therapist you can talk to about the ED and also about the reasons you are eating your feelings. I, like most here, had to learn to feel my feelings, learn to express them and then release them. For me it was not about finding healthier coping mechanisms it was about allowing myself to feel and express so I never needed another coping mechanism. I was done 'coping' with life.

If you can't work with a therapist right now then please keep coming here and talking with us. Lots of wonderful understanding people on this board who offer so much support. Glad to have you with us! ((Hugs))

JFLOWERS30ADPL 02/09/2017

Yes, therapy would be a first step to success because you need to find the root of the problem.

KristiC 02/10/2017

I have to agree with the above and say find a therapist but I also know not everyone has the luxury of professional help. When I did go to therapy she encouraged me to Journal. I have found that free writing helps me. When I want to eat and I know it isn't a mealtime I pick up my journal first. I write about anything and nothing and just keep writing until I either figure out what is bothering me or until I no longer feel the need to eat. Let it be your "safe" space that no one judges, no one sees it, it doesn't have to make sense. Just write to get it out of your head and body so it isn't torturing you anymore.

GingerAnne 02/18/2017

I have BED as well. My doctor recently started me on Vyvanse. I have to be honest the desire to binge is still there but it does give curb the craving to eat to a plce that it is more manageable. I am going through a divorce so let me be honest no amount of meds could save me from a massive Valentines binge but I know that I am in recovery and that includes setbacks.

red47640 02/19/2017

Wow, I felt like I could've written everything you wrote on here... EDs are a horrifically vicious cycle, and I have had every single one of them (including BED). While medications and coping mechanisms can help, the single most important thing in my experience of treatment is coming to terms with whatever pain, resentment, or other issues are underlying the ED. That and coming to terms with who you are as a person. Learning to a) accept yourself and b) face any underlying issues are so hard to do, I still have trouble with them. But they seem to be essential to recovery. As others have suggested, CBT and other types of therapy would be really beneficial. Also I really like Kristi's suggestion of finding a safe place to get your feelings out by writing or (for me) drawing. Be strong, you seem like a very intelligent person. We help each other out on here, and feel free to message me if you ever need to talk :-)

prettybig 02/22/2017

Are you in nz? I'm exactly the same I'm 32 years old 5'3 height and weigh 95kg I'm in pain and disgusted with myself but can't stop eating and won't excersise

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