First of all DO NOT feel guilty about triggering your therapist. She should not have been in that role if she was still in a bad place. We all know how hard this is to overcome- what you need to do is concentrate on how to get good help. Are you located in NYC?

I think a lot of therapists specialize in areas that pertain to them, whether it be someone they know or themselves. A lot of drug therapists seem to be recovering themselves. So perhaps your therapist got into this line of work because of her own ed. And, honey, you are no way responsible for her relapse. I am sorry you had to experience your own support system become so fragile and unable to help you. I hope you hang strong until someone can see you. I am available if you want to talk. Good luck.

I wish I was in NYC. I'm in a little tiny town in the panhandle of Texas. Our hospital is a glorified helicopter transfer pad. So few professionals around.

When I found my therapist, it took forever to see her. She is seriously the only ED therapist within a 3 hr radius of here. What do you do when there is no one else? Anyone know any good Skype therapists?

Thom Rutledge (www.thomrutledge.com/) is an excellent therapist. I have been to one of his intensive worshops. He was the coauthor of Goodbe Ed hello Me with Jenni Schaefer. He does phone therapy. Look it up on his site. He is awesome!

Okay, before you freak out completely, let's try to be logical here!

One thing you should know is that people with illnesses (especially addictions) often are hyperaware of "signs" that others may display - even if they are interpreted completely wrong (ex: someone who eats alot and repeatedly runs to the bathroom isn't bulimic, they may have horrible digestive issues they are trying to fix unsucessfully, you get my point.

The things you pointed out:

1) Frail looking: there are many, many disorders which make someone frail, thin, pale, sickly looking, etc not just an ED. Heart, liver, digestive, neurolgoical, cancers, etc etc.

2) Unable to talk at 7PM: if she is in a hospital, there may be rules and regulations as to visiting hours - actually, the hospitals I know have such rules, even if the patient is simply on a general medical floor, and she would definitely not have a cell phone - it doesn't matter which hospital she is in, cells phones are not allowed in (it interfers with the hospital equipment). Been to the ER? Ever notice those "no cellphones beyond this point" signs? Those exist throughout the whole hospital.

3) No husband: Logically, let's think. Some people have jobs which they cannot just drop out of, it's the nature of the work. Also, if she's in the hospital, the bills are going to be piling up soon enough and her husband knows this, so he continues working.

4) Hospitalized in Dallas: There are PLENTY of hospitals that DON'T specialize in ED treatment in Dallas! Also, I know where I live that the general thought is "get stabilized at X then get transferred to Y" because the "Y" hospital is far better equipped to handle problems properly, so this is probably the case in your area.


Hopefully, this settles you down. Take a step back and look at the situation objectively. And BREATHE. You'll find a therapist soon, just keep looking.

Unfortunately, I was right. She is in the hospital for her ED. Her husband finally admitted it to me. I was angry at first, but not so much anymore. I just want her to get healthy. It makes me so sad to know that she is struggling with this as well. EDs suck.