Eating Disorders Support Group
Eating disorders are marked by an obsessive need to control the intake and/or purging of food. This community is dedicated to those struggling on the road to recovery. Join to discuss your experience with others and find support. Get advice, ask questions, and meet others who are going through similar struggles.
my mum called me a pig, which is nothing new.To her i eat and eat and always hungry. maybe shes right i try so hard to starve and become the perfect size zero, then maybe she will be proud of me. I am such a failure in her eyes and possible to others as well.
I know it may appear that she sees failure in you but my guess is she is projecting. She is trying to mold you into what she would like herself to look like and that she sees herself as a failure. And my personal opinion is that if she comes right out and calls you a pig, then she is right, she is a huge failure as a mother and kind and compassionate person.
I wrote a post called "the judgement challenge" that I hope you will look for and read. Hopefully it will help you.
You are PERFECT just the way you are. If possible, get away from her. I know it's hard to walk away from family but sometimes it's the best thing we can do for our own health and sanity.
((Hugs))
I truly wish you didn't have to go through that with your mum. I had to remain estranged for many years from my family until I became healthier and stronger and they became less toxic. Now I can see them on occasion because we have all gotten healthier, but for years I stayed away because I would be called things like "thunder thighs" and other mean things.
Please know you are not alone, and it's perfectly ok to separate from your mother for your own well being. I might suggest a good therapist to help you cope with this kind of behavior from your mother...it can be very hard to overcome and get that negative voice out of your head, but it can be done, and again, you are perfect exactly as you are.