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Ashame of my appearence and afraid to see old frie

JessicaChase
JessicaChase
I am overwhelmed with shame. I have an old friend coming to visit me who has not seen me in 14 years. I've put on around 70 pounds since I saw her last. I know that the eating disorder is one of least concerning coping disorder I have right now. However, that still does not take away my embarresment and desire to isolate.
hotwheelz
hotwheelz
do you have any current coping skills that you use?? My favorite for my myself is a play dough in one hand at all times.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Hi there I know how u feel as I feel the same, I've stopped seeing any of my friends because I am so ashamed of myself. I don't want to go anywhere just want to hide away. But really if they are ur true friends they will not care how u look they will still love u no matter wot. I hope ur visit goes well and big hugs to u xx
deleted_user
deleted_user
PLay dough is awesome! Hun, It is never easy to cope when you dont feel good in your skin. Try to remember that if you havent seen this friend in 14 years she is probably NOT going to be concerned about your weight and will just be thrilled to see you :) Dont deny yourself the happy visit on this one. You are strong and can get through this. If you feel uncomfortable, maybe you can express your discomfort to her and she can soothe your concerns, if you have that kind of friendship.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Don't worry, everyone changes, and its been FOURTEEN years.. That's a long time ago! That's what friends are for, they love each other, and want to support each other. I wouldn't careless if my friends put on lots of weight.
I can completely relate to you though, I pretended I was sick the other night and stayed in my room when friends came over... And my weight has almost doubled. We can do this, together, the Ed has taken away so much else, lets shove it back down its throat and get out and live life! :)