Eating Disorders Support Group

Eating disorders are marked by an obsessive need to control the intake and/or purging of food. This community is dedicated to those struggling on the road to recovery. Join to discuss your experience with others and find support. Get advice, ask questions, and meet others who are going through similar struggles.

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rayofhopes 12/30/2008

I have been really struggling with purging lately and over xmas (which i was really worrying about) i have managed not to purge for 5 days... i am proud of myself but the only people who know im struggling is my boyfriend.. i dont know if i am being selfish or something but i expected more support from him and all i seem to get is a well done.. the other night i got a "im proud of you" but to be honest i kinda wanted him to reconise each day i succeed!

also i have been seeing a psychiatrist for a few weeks and at my last appointment she said she would ring me to make another.. that was two weeks ago and i have heard nothing!! what do you suggest i do?? go back or wait??

sorry for the rant!!

love Felicity xXx oo and Happy Christmas!! =)

deleted_user 12/30/2008

People just do not understand ED's at all, especially men! Your bf probably doesn't know what to say in fear of hurting you. Don't be so hard on yourself, be proud of your accomplishment. You need to do it for YOU, not anyone else. As for your psych, give her a reminder call. I bet she forgot! Take care:)

deleted_user 12/30/2008

First of all, GOOD job about not purging. That takes lots of strength.
Try letting your boyfriend know how hard this is for you, and gently encourage him to be a bit more supportive.
As for the psychiatrist, I would phone. It's the holidays, I'm sure she was just super busy and it slipped her mind.
I'm here if you want to talk :)

deleted_user 12/30/2008

Ask you borfriend to resolve to be more supportive of your commitments for the New Year. Call the psychologist and set up appointment, nothing dramatic, just ask for a follow up appointment.

Have a happy new year.

deleted_user 12/30/2008

He doesn't understand having an ED but i don't particularly think that has anything to do with him being a man, just someone that doesn't have an ED (A woman who doesn't have it is just as likely not to understand).

Personally i think its unfair on him to believe he should congratulate everyday as an achievement because then it becomes more of a fact that your doing it for him and not for yourself.

As for the pdoc give her a call because she prob forgot over the xmas period.

take care

Muse

deleted_user 12/30/2008

great job !!!!

its crazy how our self worth comes from others isnt it??? I want to hear how good Im doing all the time, but like the others said I have to do it for me...

good luck babe, and really good job be proud of yourself...

deleted_user 12/30/2008

yeah i meant to say excellant job as well!!!

deleted_user 12/30/2008

Anyone who hasn't had an ED unfortunately I don't think can ever understand the extent of it. And we shouldn't expect them too I guess. Thats why we have each other!
5 days thats amazing... take the time to really congratulate yourself!!

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