Eating Disorders Support Group

Eating disorders are marked by an obsessive need to control the intake and/or purging of food. This community is dedicated to those struggling on the road to recovery. Join to discuss your experience with others and find support. Get advice, ask questions, and meet others who are going through similar struggles.

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culdesac
culdesac
bulimia has brought out the worst in me. growing up with my troubled family my mom being clinically depressed my brother struggling bipolar disorder and my dad trying to hold the family together. never really had a normal childhood no family vacations, no trips to the zoo or even a park for that matter. the tv literally raised me .the relatives never showed any compassion so no support on that front either. but i didnt turn out so bad except i developed body issues and decided to go on a diet probably 3 years back and i was lost weight to a fair deal of 55kgs and wanted to go a bit further to 50kgs and i didnt stop until i reached 45 kgs and thats when i decided to treat myself with some comfort food and went on to being bulimic and since that day i have been battling bulimia and its affecting my life its somehow made me more emotional, moody. i snap all the time. i dont know how to feel anymore , its like i cant be happy i have to put on a smile and pretend its okay when clearly it isnt . its crushing me. i have no real friends, no one to confide in. my family had already got a lot to deal with so they possibly wont understand me and just call it my little tantrum. i have had more than my fair deal of miseries, wondering do i stand a chance at ever leading a normal happy life.
ImpulsiveREtardednes
ImpulsiveREtardednes
I think that everyone has a chance. It's taking it, running with it...and not letting the slip up opportunity sneak in and take over. There is help out there...the hardest part is accepting what you have and taking the help available.

If you can do that...then you can have the chance to lead a normal happy life. :) That doesn't mean that life will be easy, just because you get the help...but you may be happier for it. :)
culdesac
culdesac
my boyfriend has been the biggest support in my life.even though he doesnt know about my ED as we have a long distance relationship.but he knows i have my issues and he has always been there for me.he's my only chance at ever being happy. he's not like everyone else i dont know what i'd do without him. when i am with him am i totally different person not some troubled old soul but an actual person.
ImpulsiveREtardednes
ImpulsiveREtardednes
Well, you ARE an actual person. It's good that you have him in your life. That means that you can get some of the stuff that's bothering you out of your system though. So, perhaps try and utilize him. Who knows...he might even be able to help you find a better way to cope with your ED. :) However...that would mean that you'd have to tell him first. EVERYONE has their issues...I'll bet that even he has some of his own. 2 heads are better then one, when it comes to offering, receiving and accepting help. :)

I'm here if you need to talk. :)
culdesac
culdesac
my ED somehow affects my relationship.i imean when i am restricting i feel good, i am happy and chirpy around him but when i binge and feel i have let myself down it shows i get into fights with him and he's like 'didnt see that coming' i snap at him all the time but he's a sweetheart he never complains.
and man you are some listener, having your own demons to deal with you are actually showing interest in someone else's problems. thanks a bunch.
ImpulsiveREtardednes
ImpulsiveREtardednes
Any time, everyone needs someone, right? I know what you mean...when you feel horrible about yourself, it definitely comes out in many ways. Some people snap, others cry...I...I'm not fully sure what I do...I change personalities or it comes out in my sleep. Either way, it comes out.

It's good that he's a sweet heart...they're hard to find. And it's good that he's sticking through it. But I do hope that you are able to somehow get it out of your system...maybe writing it down, or keeping a journal about what it is your eating...a food diary. What made you feel like eating what, why did you want that, how could you have it but not over indulge. Just some ideas. My friend went through An eating disorder group...so she's trying to help me out. :) So now, I'm attempting to help you. :)
culdesac
culdesac
i think people without ED wont possibly understand what we are going through even the therapist they could only pretend to listen and inside they must be thinking of us as looney bins who have cant even eat properly let alone have a life.only a person with an ED can understand and relate to what the other person has to deal with.
deleted_user
deleted_user
You are so right. People can't possible understand ED unless they have it. Just eat..that's what they say. I am like you, as long as I am restricting, I am in a good mood, in control. But, if I am feeling like I failed or eaten what I shouldn't, not exercised enough..whatever, it's like Jekkyl and Hyde. I don't think I will ever be normal and it's a lonely life because no one understands. We here understand each other and it feels good to be able to post things and have people really know what you mean and not think you're crazy. So, know that you are not the only one.
culdesac
culdesac
yes it definitely helps when you actually get through someone and they actually understand what you are going through.
ImpulsiveREtardednes
ImpulsiveREtardednes
There are lots of counselors who have HAD or DO have lots of issues that they're helping others get through and help them with. I don't know if it's fair to judge them. Not all of them got into counseling for the fun of it. Some of them got there because they were in a similar position once before.

You don't want to be judged and have things assumed abut yourself...I wouldn't advise that you treat the idea of ALL counselors the very way you wish not to be treated. Just a note of warning.