Domestic Abuse Survivors Community Group
Domestic Abuse Survivors is a group for survivors and their support network to air their past and present experiences of emotional as well as physical abuse. It was established to give a forum on a subject society tends to shy away from.
Hi. This is all new to me and hard to do but I need help. I want to move on. Please help me. I am 20. I married my high school sweet heart 7 months ago. And couple weeks after that moved down to his duty station with him. Yes he is military. He has never hurt me until I moved in. He has multiple times put me in head locks and choked me until I woke up on the floor. He has elbowed me in the jaw on purpose. My dog could feel his hostility and stood there barking at him and he pulled his pistol out on my dog . I told him not to point the gun at my dog and he then turns it at my head. He pressed the gun to my head thrashing me around and yelled I'm not done with you. When I finally got him to stop he immediately realized what he did and had remorse. Things would be good for a month or two and then we had a couple move in with us. His friends. I went from being his wife to being everyone's maid and cook. I was in the wrong if I said anything to them about helping clean, cook, and buy food. One night it lead to a screaming match with my husband. He cornered me in the bathroom and I asked him to let me leave multiple times. He finally stepped aside but I didn't realize he had other intentions . I stepped past him and he shoved me into the bed . I got up and as I turned my face towards him he swung at me. I didn't get a chance to realize that's he was going in to hit me. So he hit me and then threw me up on the bed and kept punching .. each fist one after the other. From being in absolute shock from the first hit.. all I could do was put my arms up to block his blows. He finally stops and storms off . I get up and go grab my keys to leave but in panic can't find them. Go back to the room and noticed he is following me. He asks me to talk .. please let's talk. I tell him no and once again no . He grabs me and pulls into the room . I grab the door frame and try to pull myself out . I fail and flings next into the bed . I hit my head on the bed and things went out for a minute . And yeah so he went and got counseling from the military .. was removed from my home for a week. But I never got the help that I needed . I guess I forgave him since he got help but I'm still having problems healing from everything. As well as afraid of it happening again. He hasn't had anymore signs of anger but I just need help. I need to heal. People witnessed the event.one friend helped me out and asks me how I'm doing . But I haven't told anyone else or have gotten to actually talk about it. I would like to heal and move on. To forgive me husband.