Cubbies,
I know how much this must disappoint you. It's not easy to accept our spouses/x's for who they really are. At least you now know where she stands and what you need to do - Protect yourself! Stay strong, we are all behind you!
Hugs,
T.

That's very disappointing, Gocubbies. I'm sorry she's played that silly game. At least you really know who she is now, and it's easier to accept when it's made so blatantly obvious. I can't believe she did this.

It brings back memories of when my ex showed his true colours, and it was a terrible realisation. To think that the person I'd loved so much had come to that.

All the best to you. I don't think you deserve to be treated so callously. You are worth far more than that.

love and hugs
kamary

Go-Giant -Cubbie

Cubbie...I know you probably dont want to hear this..but...better now than later. She has shown you who she really is. Imagine what it would be like if you got back together...thinking you were working out your issues and it happen all over again. Thats what happened to me. You dont want to go there.

Go no contact other than child issues and move forward...give that women what she thinks she wants. Try your best to take the high road and allow her to live the decisions she is making. You have your children and yourself to focus on now. She is just someone you used to know. Big Hugs...Kathy

hello i was married for 21 years an my ex deciecd he was the one that wanted out of our marriage.an if he ever wanted to come back to me i would say no cus hes the one that left me to be with his new women.so i am never ever gonna take my ex back.i just wish u an ur ex good luck on working about getting back togeather if it works out for the both of ya.all i can say is good luck an i hope that everything works out for the both of ya.

I agree with Dairy, take the high road . It doesn't look good on her behalf. She's mad at you like you did something. She choose rather to "drop the ball" and pull away than be honest and transparent . [School kids do that kind of behavior]. Attempts to explain her defenses seems pointless. Trying to be her savior and her fix-it man is a tough role to take on while she is yet refusing resolutions to correct her misconduct. The thing you do have in your corner, is the possibly that she fully understands to lose you, the family, and family security as the consequences of her decisions. Hopefully, she will reconsider. Prepare for the worse but hope for the best. Keep yourself in check and don't display any negative behavior. Keep a cool head.

Cubbie,....
Sorry to hear about that.....
That's ok...better now then later.........
GET mad...... it's good.......
Don't let her control you and use your feeling for her to get what she wants,,,, DON'T .
I did that for a while and was a fool....... Don't you make the same mistake....

LIFE WILL GO ON MY FRIEND ......

Love those kids that you have...............

Be talking to ya......
Bob

Sorry the rug got taken out from under you! Keep your sense of peace and go on with your plans to sort out life. She sounds like she is not ready to work on marriage and is dealing with her own selfish ideas. Your children are lucky to have you. I hope you feel strong and know you have support here!
Hugs
Cheryl

(Hugs) - that's all I've got...

My couneslor gave me the best advice. He said "Of course, your x will want to come back". Don't listen to what it was that you did for them that they miss because most likely, that is what it is. Listen for the words of what SHE plans to do for YOU and how she plans to change and realizes the mistakes she made. And I'm with everyone else but I'd expect a LONG time in counseling and at least a year of seeing how she manages her own life without your support. My guess is she won't last that long, but then you'll know.