I think this is a genuine question. I don't know if all woman want the same thing, but if another man ever comes into my life, I want him to be honest, loyal, a hard-worker, but put our relationship before work. I want someone I can trust, laugh with, someone with whom I can enjoy companionship and intimacy. Mutual respect and consideration. I think most women just want to know that they are loved and valued by the other.

Thanks for asking the question - very refreshing that a man cares enough to ask. Very cool.

I hope no-one thinks I was bashing Wiseman with my response...... I took his question seriously and shared what it brought up from my experience. I loved the question and couldn't wait to read other's answers when I got back to work today.
Perhaps there was a post I missed over the weekend that's been removed? If it was mean spirited, it's just as well.
Anyway, thanks for the question and thanks for the discussion. I appreciate the wisdom and honesty in this group. You're all life changers!

MNMama you weren't bashing anyone. What you said was nicely thought out and written. Apparently the offensive postings were removed.

MNMama, my comment about bashing was not directed at you. Someone was on here not following the rules of the road by making inappropriate comments that were in no way helpful to anyone. I put my comment it out there without singling out the person doing it in hopes they would just cut it out. It appears she has been expunged from this post. Therefore should any one else comes along and read the thread they may get a bit confused.

I would expect to be treated as someone's very best friend. Who would be there through thick and thin and
take all the bad and good parts. Have my back when needed. Hard to find someone like that. Good friends take time to become good friends, but they are well worth the wait.

Thanks Trisha and Misred, I've put my foot in my mouth so often, and I'd hate to think anyone thought I was running anyone down. Appreciate the clarification.
And Wiseman....thanks again for asking!

MN - yes, there were some inflammatory posts removed. Then they came back in under a diff name - was not you at all. Not sure why DS cannot block an IP address so this will not continue

Wiseman....
I don't know that there's one set answer.... personally, I thought I knew what I wanted BUT have recently realized that maybe I don't??? Maybe I want a soft place to fall where all I have to be is.... a woman... not a boss, mom, teacher, etc. I didn't know how important that was to me as in the last half of my marriage it was more about me handling everything(literally... children, finances, cleaning, homework,church, planningforthe future). I have a friend who has very unassumingly stepped in to be an amazing support with my flooding disaster of a house.... I didn't know exactly what that was like in this stage of life. It is nice.... comfortable .... and peaceful. That level of "care" makes me want to spend more time with him.... that's what this woman wants..... respect and care!