Divorce after Twenty years together Community Group
I want to start something for those of us that were married for a long long time. I think that we face a little different issues than those who were dating for a few years or even married for shorter period of time. Being married for so long we have older children some have grandkids dealing with teenagers and their reaction to the divorice empty nesters dating after 40...
I have been doing really good the last few weeks, not a bad day thinking about her at all, then tonight have my girls who have been through a lot with this divorce, from finding a pregnancy test to sex texts etc...
driving them to gymnastics the 11 year old says oh I think mom's boyfriend dumped her, and yup I had to ask why do you say that...( I should of known better, but I felt she was holding it in and wanted to get it out, plus I wanted to know) so she says oh mom left her phone on the table and I was looking at her text, he was asking is she was naked and she was like ya come on over....
why do I even care, this women is putting me threw hell and back, but it bugs me cause she's easy going like that so naïve, made to so sad to hear that coming from my little girl. that was at 8 tonight,
I mean really, you have two daughters 11 & 12 years old and they see shit like that, your suppose to be a role model for them, I don't want my babies thinking that's ok to be doing and saying things like that....
oh it just breaks my heart all the way around. my girls are so young, I feel so bad there going through this, our family just got ripped apart so mommy thought the grass was greener on the other side...
I hope I can sleep tonight, and be able to blow it off tomorrow , start a new day (again) ........
driving them to gymnastics the 11 year old says oh I think mom's boyfriend dumped her, and yup I had to ask why do you say that...( I should of known better, but I felt she was holding it in and wanted to get it out, plus I wanted to know) so she says oh mom left her phone on the table and I was looking at her text, he was asking is she was naked and she was like ya come on over....
why do I even care, this women is putting me threw hell and back, but it bugs me cause she's easy going like that so naïve, made to so sad to hear that coming from my little girl. that was at 8 tonight,
I mean really, you have two daughters 11 & 12 years old and they see shit like that, your suppose to be a role model for them, I don't want my babies thinking that's ok to be doing and saying things like that....
oh it just breaks my heart all the way around. my girls are so young, I feel so bad there going through this, our family just got ripped apart so mommy thought the grass was greener on the other side...
I hope I can sleep tonight, and be able to blow it off tomorrow , start a new day (again) ........
Speaking with your girls the way you did sounds like a good idea. Once again, they are lucky to have you for their dad. Keep up the good work.
As to getting the word to their mother, I would recommend documenting and getting what's being shared to the lawyer. Perhaps there's a legal way to get some help for the girls without causing fallout for you OR them.
Take care.
it's just a tangled web I live these days, treading on thin ice. I need to be careful.
I would love to tell my lawyer but she would flip out on the kids.
can't have that...
People like that have a way of doing themselves in and self destructing. Just sit back and watch and with you looking out for the youngest they should be okay. My ex was so sure of himself and punishing me that I ended up with this farm and I have no more ties to him.
Hopefully the restraining order will be lifted at the next hearing as long as you have not done anything she can twist to keep the order in force.Then you can get your guns back and hunt again. Just keep that goal in your mind and don't break that restraining order.
almost broke down a few times at work today.. see my therapist tomorrow. and every Wednesday going forward.
took my 12 year old to hockey last night, while getting her gear out of the bag I notice a puck shaped ball of wax, I pull it out it reads " sex wax in big letter, then under it reads the best for your stick..
put out by Mr Zogs , google it, look at the image of it, no one in there right mind would buy this for there daughter...
I was like what is this !, oh mom bought me that at the hockey store.., I called there said they have a display of it.
doesn't matter she's flipping 12 years old...
god give me strength...
I could write a book, I couldn't make this stuff up if I tried.