So, we've been to mediation. We've decided on a settlement. We signed a letter outlining everything before we left the mediators office. My attorney is drafting the formal agreement for us to review and sign.

Toward the end of the mediation, my H requested an "abeyance," which would allow him to temporarily stop paying alimony, in the event he was involuntarily fired from his job. My attorney said we could put a clause in the agreement stating that he had a certain amount of time to find new employment, like 6 months. If he had not found a job in that time, he would have to continue paying alimony, making up the alimony he had not paid. Hope this is making sense.

I initially agreed to it because he had basically given me everything I asked for. I had to compromise a bit on the alimony but I was fine with what I got. But now, I'm having second thoughts about this little caveat. Have you all ever heard of such a thing? I'm not feeling comfortable with it because of his age and his potential health problems(he has had cancer but is fine at the moment). What if he never finds another job?

My attorney said we could still tweak things a bit before the formal settlement agreement is signed. I'm not sure I can agree to this little caveat. Sounds like he's trying to get out of his responsibility a little early, you know? I wouldn't put it past him. He is very, very sneaky.