I wish you luck. My ex put a restraining order on me the day after she kept calling and I wouldn't answer so I called the police and asked if they would call her and tell her not to contact me anymore. The next day I was served with the papers. I was like you and had never laid a hand on her for 23 years of marriage, but the judge gave her the order for 6 months. A week after we went to court she pulled into my driveway wanting to talk. I should of had her arrested then but didn't want to put the kids through anymore. It's just part of the game to make you look bad. If the judge awards her with it just follow it and afterwards you will get your rights back. I know it sucks, but usually women will get it rewarded to them because the judge doesn't want to be the one that didn't reward it and the man ends up hurting the woman later on. I'm sorry your going through this, been there it does suck.

(((HUGS))) my only advice is to try not to let the order bother you. If you have done nothing wrong the courts will see that eventually.

I can only imagine being a hunter and not being able to go is hard. But it won't be forever.

I forget how old are your kids are, can you text them and tell them they have to be outside when you get there.

My kids go outside now as my daughter hates the fact that their dad honks when he pulls in the driveway, she feels like she's a dog he is calling for.

He can walk to to the door and get them but he will not get out of his car, even when they were smaller he would never help with their bags, bikes just won't step foot on my driveway.

So I get the kids ready and make sure they are sitting on the porch 5 minutes before he gets there.

Maybe your kids can do the same thing and wait outside.

Trust me, you already know , all eyes will be on YOU ready to strike you down if you so much as wave your arms in the air when they know you got a gun. Forget your hunting guns because you know this legal snare is a set up to trap you and to make you miserable. You already know she is this vindictive person and pulls out all the lying stops possible that is in her arsenal. This woman is dangerous and will do anything to steal your life away. You go around the bull and stop waving any red flags. What you can do is , call your kid's cell the second you arrive at the curb. Do not engage with their mother.

So sorry you're having to go through this. I have such a hard time understanding where people like your ex find such a dark and insane way of behaving. How could anyone be so messed up that she could do this to you and your kids.
Keep on staying away from her. At least you have that amount of peace.
Once all is said and done, you should be able to get back outside hunting, but I think Toby has a good point. You don't want the police around you thinking you're armed these days. I keep wondering if that's why you were rousted out in the middle of the night the first time she called, if she said "he's armed to the teeth and dangerous," or some other lie. It's apparent she could care less about truth or falsehood.
Take care and try to keep in mind that this will pass.

Sounds like she loves being in control. It's a power trip, knowing you have to kiss her ass or she will use the restraining order against you.
Good luck tomorrow.

Hoping you got some good news today

"deep breath"
short story, I lost, continued till end of Nov.
reason, well there was not one, not at all, it was a circus, thank god my lawyer was there, he said he has never seen anything like it,
first my x and her friend (the one give her all this bad advise) come walking in her friend holding her arm and her back like she was cripple, with two more women is suits next to them, people were actually getting out of there way, come to find out the two women were from DOVE, a great organization for women in domestic violence cases, one was a lawyer the other for moral support, keep in mind this x of mine has never been assaulted in our entire relationship., I met her when she came out of a battered relationship.
my lawyer and I finally see the affidavit, omg, reading it I was floored, it read that I chased her in my car bumping her car forcing her off the road where she almost drove into a tree and "got killed" ,
second, I called the house the day of the first restraining order and said I want to speak to &*(^# blank, my daughter, both flat out lies ! , so the judge asks her to tell her what happened that day, she goes into it, saying I was at the post prom party and she showed up( social event I'm allowed by the court) , says she left I was behind her she felt threatened so she pulled over so I could go by her.
the judge asked my lawyer if he had questions for her, he said yes, mrs so an so, can you please read the 1st paragraph of the court affidavit you filled out and signed on the date.. so she did, (me bumping her car etc) mrs. so and so, didn't you just testify that he was behind you and you felt threatened and pulled over to let him pass, yes I did, but the affidavit you filled out and signed reads he was bumping your car and forced you off the road, did he bump you car, no he was behind me, oh so he never bumped your car, NO.
lie number 1, caught red handed. this happened three times, in three lies,
the judge asked what new happened in the last few months for her to uphold the order, we'll he's harressing my when he pick's up the kids he beeps, judge looked right at her and said it's not against the law to beep, granted it may annoy you but it's not a threat to you, next, well he showed up at my daughters hockey game, ok did he do anything to harm you or threathen you in anyway, no, ok, it's in the court order that he can show up to his children's sporting events and any other social event, actually the court like to see fathers show up to events for there kids, most don't.
even after all that the court still kept it on until Nov., my lawyer said he could not believe we lost, that no judge want's to be the one to dismiss it then god forbid something happens, it comes back to the judge.
which I get I really do.. but for how long does it go on until someone breaks the circle, I mean if there's no issue's you can't keep it going, right..
I'm just staying clear away from her, she's a fruit loop....
my lawyer asked about my son going to college, I said he's not, wanted to know why, I said someone hasn't paid the mortgage in four months so my credit is ruined I can't get a loan, he said why was the mortgage not paid, said I had no idea, he's said so she's broke the divorce agreement, that if she's late twice in a year the house goes up for sale, I said ya I guess so. ( I'm ok with that cause the kids life there) but now after today's games he wants to bring her back for it and force the house to be sold...
she almost threw my son out last week, so if she does he will stay with me, then the girls will follow sooner or later, long shot but you never know..
I really don't want to fight anymore, the time and money is just sick, but she keeps it up.....
I would rather put that money into there sports or something.......

Can't imagine how hard it must be dealing with a nut job like your ex. Depending on where you are, I think that time frame's going to ruin deer season for you. Sorry.
I hope you follow your lawyer's lead and fight for her to live up to the divorce agreement. She's responsible for taking care of things, and if the house is lost, that's your kid's money she's throwing away, not just yours and hers. Even if it's not immediate, it will leave both of you less able to help them with medical, car, any other miscellaneous expenses down the road.
Take care, you're a good dad and doing what's right for your kids will help you determine the best way to move forward. Sending a hug your way.

I'm so pissed off for you after reading this - you bet your ass that lawyer needs to take her back and put her on the hot plate. Sell the house. Take your money. Your kids will soon be old enough to choose who they want to live with - make sure you have a place big enough for both of them. Good Luck on 11/7 - in the meantime, I hope to see a post where your lawyer slapped her silly.

What an awful woman! You would think the court could see through all her lies by now. She must feel so good about herself. Time to take her down.
No more defensive plays. It's time for the offence to step in. See if your lawyer can charge her with contempt; not following an order made by the court. She hasn't paid the mortgage. What is she doing with the 'extra' money? Maybe she should be paying you spousal support. If she was keeping the house for the kids, it should be pointed out she keeps throwing her son out. Then, regardless of her excuses, put the house up for sale. Has anyone checked the house recently? Has she been keeping it well maintained outside and inside? If not, she is bringing down the value of the house and hurting you financially. You should have someone check it out. Do this as soon as you can. Don't let her bring down the value of the house. Don't trust her. Also don't let her use petty gripes that just drag on and end up wasting time and money. The attorney should point out every time she wastes money on needless complaints, there is less money to use on the kids and college.
Good luck

thanks for the support,
MNM, I will miss gun season and hunting camp with the guy's but I can still do archery, not as much but i'm ok with what I can do.
KRK, even though I lost, i'm ok, I had a big victory today, they way the judge talked to her to let her understand I didn't break any laws, that I can be places was nice, hope it sank into her head,
as far as the house, I gave that up to her in the divorce, however i'm on the mortgage for five years unless she is late for two months, then she needs to sell it pay off the bank to get my name off the note,
me and my credit are on the line, any profit she makes she keeps, but the house is underwater cause the second floor addition we just did.
Lost,
sooner or later they have to see it, I stick to the rules and laws, she only hurt the kids today, I can't have no extra time, like yesterday I left work at lunch cause my daughter called to ask if I would give her a ride to a birthday party, I said of course, I take her to hockey on Mondays (not my day) I love the "extra time" even if it's a short ride up the street to drop her off, I get a hug and a kiss, and best of all a thanks dad I love you.
but now I have to stick to my days and times only, I can still show up at hockey or soccer just can't give them the ride, which is nuts, I pick up one of her friends on Mondays cause her dad works, he meets us there, how weird is that going to be...
good question about the "extra money" I have both our financial statements from the child support hearing, so I figured out what she makes, what I pay her, minus her basic bills and adding 2000.00 of just play money and over the last four months there is 20 grand missing......
this is the same "mom" who refused to give our son money for college, cause I could only afford 400.00 a month to give him, and trust me when I tell you that's all I have, it is and it's every penny left after my bills,
by the time I pay her 1600.00 a month, plus my rent, car, car ins, etc.. i'm just about broke..
so he not going to college , all his buddys left today, so sad for him,
but she make 7600.00 a month cash, he bills are maybe 3800.00 on the high side.... and she could not give that boy a few more dollars than me..
my 401 k money is going to my lawyer, to file contempt charge is 2500.00, he's expensive but he's good.
i'm going to meet my sister this weekend and talk with her about things were pretty close.
I say the hell with it, I want to bring her and her friend down, it's a game to her friend, bit she's also an adult and knows right from wrong, hurt me fine, but not the kids..
thanks for letting me vent.

All I can say my friend is hugs. I can feel the frustration and anger. I cannot not fathom her logic. Wow. Those kids know who is there for them. She is going to reap what she has sowed. My ex is reaping it now. My kids rarely talk to him. Unless he calls them, they actually forget to call him. I am even forgetting to tell them to call him. Like he is starting to become invisible to us. She will too, one day. Big hugs

I know how badly you want this finished. Let your lawyer take her back to court over the mortgage. She is ruining your credit...has already ruined your good credit. This will cost you until you build up a good rating again. The longer she is allowed to do this the longer it will affect you. I think your children will understand why this has to be done.

jijlost made some great suggestions in her reply. Please follow thru on this. it's the only way to protect yourself from some of your stbx stunts to harm you.

I agree, let your lawyer take her to court for the mortgage, sooner rather than later. If foreclosure gets started and is put on your credit, you will not be able to get a future mortgage for a full 3 yrs from when the mortgage was finally settled even if the house is sold & the mortgage was satisfied in full. Protect yourself.

Where I live, an ex can request the current income tax and their expenses every year. If ex refuses to comply, it can be made a court order and refusal to comply can become a contempt charge. But I'm speaking only if you think you ex might actually lie about finances.....
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