I know this is so much easier said than done right? You have to dig down deep in yourself and go places you DON'T WANT TO GO. For me in order to find strength in myself again I had to go back to the girl I once was many, many, many,,,,, years ago. Before the Husband, before the kids, before car payments, morgages, medical bills, carpools, pta, company dinners.... ect,,,, Before EVERYTHING who was that girl. I was a talented hair styliist, a loving friend, a good listner, a loving sister, a respectful daughter, a hard worker, I make people laugh, i'm compassionate, loyal, bubbly, smart, and the list goes on and on. If some of you make a list about all the things you were before Divorce I bet your list would be long also. So how to you find that person again???? And like me I bet if you look in the mirror you think that girl isn't there anymore right??? SHE IS, SHE IS DOWN IN THERE WAITING FOR YOU TO RECLAIM HER. Remember how fearless we were when we were young if someone told you you couldn't do something you worked twice as hard to PROVE THEM WRONG RIGHT!!!! I hated when friends or family would say " Oh T you can't do that really what are you thinking that's CRAZY!!! IT WILL NEVER HAPPEN" Well having the stubborness of a TRUE ITALIAN I would go out of my way to prove everyone wrong... Remember the feeling when you would accomplish something?? The PRIDE, The JOY, The feeling of HA EAT IT IT DID IT!!!!!

As woman when we get married and have children our lives all of sudden don't belong to us anymore. Our husbands and our children always seem to come first. Sound Familiar. So the dreams and goals that we once had for ourselves get put on the back burner so we can be there for our husbands and our kids. We can Love, Support, Nurture, and give our all to help them accomplish their goals and dreams. So in those years of supporting our husbands, raising our children we are in away telling ourselves that THEY ARE MORE IMPORTANT THAN WE ARE. I mean only selfish put themselves first right, especially before a husband or child. No one told me that it would have been ok to save something for myself. So more years go by for me 23 and the kids are grown and on there way out which is the way it should be and your all excited about the next chapter in your life. The time when your husband and you can reconnect, travel, plan weddings, and wait for grand children right. THEN........ Without a clue HE BAILS OUT AND BLAMES YOU FOR HIS UN HAPPINESS, AND YOU FOR HIS FAILURES AND HE WANTS A FRESH START....... All your hopes and dreams that you put in this person for decades is GONE IN A MATTER OF MINUTES. NOW WHAT!!!!!!!!!!

I TELL YOU WHAT FIND THAT GIRL, FIND YOUR PASSION AGAIN, FIND YOUR STRENGTH AGAIN, AND FIGHT FOR YOUR LIFE..... Talk to a good friend, A Pastor, A Parent, A Sibling, tell them your goals for yourself, Write them down and little by little take steps towards what YOU WANT FOR YOUR LIFE NOW... I'ts not easy I had to admit things about myself I NEVER THOUGHT I WOULD SAY words like DoorMat, Push Over, Accepting his discusting behavior by ignoring it wasn't happening because I didn't want give up on the ILLUSION that everything was ok. SELF RESPECT, SELF WORTH, SEEING IN YOURSELF ALL THE WONDERFUL THINGS THAT OTHERS SEE YOU. FIND THEM....... Just take it one day at a time....step by step...SLOW AND STEADY ALWAYS WINS THE RACE....... BE PROUD OF THE WOMAN YOU ARE TODAY BECAUSE SHE IS AWESOME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!