Oh that will be hard! Do your level best and try to enjoy.

((hugs))

I have gone through that too. Whores son was on my sons football team. This was before divorce was final. My then hubby & her put on a nice little show until my daughter would arrive at the games, then they didn't go near each other, pretending there was no affair. I'm sorry, I know how difficult that is. So badly wanting to enjoy watching our kids only for it to be overshadowed by their disgusting actions. Mine told all kinds of crazy lies about me too. I hope you got through it okay & enjoyed your son. Try to stay focused on him as best you can.

((lostwh)) think of your son and how much it'll mean to him down the track. My kids hold dear the memories of who was present, who made the effort, who cared. My daughter with the three grandchildren has already thanked me for making the effort to get along with my ex so that we can both be present at things. While you're busy being there for your son, you'll also be showing your ex and the om that you are a man with integrity. You can hold your head up high and be comfortable in yourself knowing that you're the bigger person.

Last night, I reaped a reward for all the effort. I got to be the first grandparent to have two of my grandchildren stay the night:)) They're only 5 and 3, and they were both very keen to stay with this old Nanny. I've had the 5yo once before and as far as I know, my ex hasn't been given this pleasure as yet. Taking the high road pays off in so many unimaginable ways.

Just a thought - Is there someone who might go along to sit with you?

My thoughts are with you. The first few times will be tough, but it will be worth it.

love and hugs
kamary

I feel for you , realize that you have nothing to hide ,
You are hurting a bit and she is a piece of s---?
Nothing to hide there
Watch your son for his and your sake
You be there for your son
((( your son will figure that she is there for show, for her show, your son may never acknowledge that to you and that is okay, but he will know))))
Take care

Well, I went to the game and made it through alright. The ex must of thought I looked too happy because when I got home the text messages started up again telling me what a terrible husband and father I was. I thought I don't have to put up with this, so I called the police and asked if they could contact her and tell her to stop texting and calling. I hated to do it because we have kids, but it feels good knowing thats over.

I'm glad you went to the game. The high road is never easy

It's never easy to be the bigger person and do what is right. I find a touch of humor in the fact that you acted so well your ex felt the need to text you so much. Before long you won't be acting and you can attend those games without even thinking about your ex.

Wow, she is a piece of work. I am in this group (newbie) because I am thinking about divorcing my husband (and I think he is thinking about divorcing me) because of his affair that produced a baby and his detachment from our marriage over guilt about his fatherless child and his need to be with them. We are hanging on by a thread (in MC and trying our hardest) but I come here to read about what life may be like on the other side of divorce.

I hope that we could be civil to each other after the dust would settle. We have a young teenager ourselves and I could never imagine both of us not attending things that are important to her, and being civil to each other for her sake. But I know that I am probably naive about what will happen. I know the wounds are already deep for both of us and it seems like once we start the divorce proceedings things would get uglier.

Make it very clear, "you are not interested" in her opinion . You might have to prove her communication efforts are excessive and inappropriate in content, thereby a form of harassment . It sounds to me, she is deliberately keeping a close eye looking for something to call you on. I wouldn't be surprised she might be setting you up challenging your character as unfit to father. Usually to gain some legal financial edge. Be careful.

I'm feeling good today I think calling the police and putting a stop to the calling and text gave me some sort of closure.I forgot to mention every time the OM saw me coming his way he'd turn and go the other way. it might have something to do with some of the things I told him I would do to him when I found out about them. I know now their not worth it, but it's funny how much of a coward he is.