Welcome! I am new to the group too. I have found a lot of love, support and wisdom here. I am 64 and newly divorced 12/28/15.

Welcome Backcountry. Glad to have someone with such a great attitude joining us. I'm single again since July, 2013, so 2.5 years out. Like you, I'm expecting and planning my life around being on my own, but trying to keep my heart and mind open to providence.

Backcountryflygirl (I'm going to call you BCFG for short!):
Glad the link worked! We're always open to new members as everyone brings something different to the "party" and we all benefit from the wisdom of individuals' experiences.

As to being 60 and "alone" -- I'm 62 and have been what I call "flying solo" for over 3 years now. Yes, I have dated a few guys, but haven't come across any who I really clicked with or that I had enough interest in to want the relationship to go beyond casual dating. I'm at the point in my life where if I do meet someone and "live happily ever after" that would be nice, but it's not necessary. I think most of us "long-timers" here feel the same way.

Again, welcome to our group!
xoxo

Welcome Backcountryflygirl. I've been divorced since Dec of 2007. My Christmas present to myself. I've been alone since the ex went overseas to work in Jan of 97. The farm I started from bare ground and trees is paying some of my bills. It's not where it should be but I love what I'm doing. I was married 33 years by the time I was granted my divorce. It took me 8 years to get untangled financially from the ex and get his name off this farm. I have two daughters who live in different states. One I haven't seen for a while and the other is in Atlanta. I get to see her and the little ones several times a year. My life is full and I'm at peace with the way my life is going. I will probably never marry because this is a rich little town and most of the men are chasing the younger women. I'm not sure I want to mess up what I have now by marrying again.

Welcome to the site BCFG! I am your age and going through a divorce from the man I married right out of high school. Your story sounds like mine...and many others on DS! We are so glad to have you here.

You sound like an AWESOME lady! Your story of survival is inspiring and it sounds like you have the right outlook. I am looking very forward to getting to know you better!

Again, a very sincere welcome! You are among friends here!

Welcome BCFG...you have found an awesome group of people. I am 6 years post divorce for the 2nd time to the same man. It takes a while to find your footing but life truly can be great. I love your attitude...very positive. I look forward to learning more about you...Big Hugs...Kathy

Welcome, I was married for 20 years and divorced my controlling husband in 2003. I remarried in 2007 and that husband was an emotionally unavailable man who broke my heart and divorced me in Jan. 2015, which brought me to this site. I am slowly getting my life back, still lots of struggles but mainly financial, I am finally getting over my divorce, never thought I would but this site helped me so much. I find so much comfort here and as sad as it is sometimes, it is also a comfort knowing I'm not the only one going through this. There is tons of support, advice and understanding here, glad u found us.

Yeah, many buy into the script believing that men prefer younger trophy women. As a reminder, those men of maturity who might indeed actually do acquire youth, themselves will need to have the qualifying attraction of health, wealth and/or power. Statistically MANY DO NOT.

You might do better to remember people by nature are simply equal opportunist. Because you DO have something of value, mature single women might need to discern whether a suitor wants just your "cookie" or wants "what" you do have. Just saying, you are now wiser. Welcome to peaceful Singlehood and to Divorce 20+.

Hi BCFG and welcome here. Sounds like you've definitely been through the mill and I'm sorry to hear that. I hope we can help you find your way forward.

I am your age, separated and then divorced 7 1/2 years. I was with my ex for 39 years altogether. He wasn't a sociopath - more of a narcissistic workaphile - emotionally unavailable for sure - one of those wolves in sheep's clothing. I'm happy being free of that marriage and am still dealing with trust.

I found this site in 2010 and it was an absolute Godsend. I'm glad you found us.

love and hugs
kamary

Welcome, this is a great group. I could not have made it without these wonderful people.

As for dating and relationships I live in a retirement community 55 and older and see many happy
70 and 80 year olds dateing and even getting married so there is always hope.

I myself have trust issues so it will be awhile before I date.

Again welcome.

Welcome to the group !!! You have an awesome attitude good for you !!! This group has some awesome people in it. This isn't a club any of us wanted to be in. But meeting such amazing people is really neat.

Welcome to the group. You will find lots of support and friendship here.

Wow, thanks for all your responses. I greatly appreciate the support. I've been in survival mode for last 5 years that I "forgot" how much support I really need. I THRIVE when I am supported so WHOOP WHOOP, I'm on my way. It takes time but feels good to nudge forward a bit. I've never been "surrounded" by so many similar to me. I'm usually the odd ball, in a good way, but different and feel estranged. Thanks again for your warmth. My heart is glowing today. Amazing Grace, welcome and sad that you were divorced 3 days after Christmas. Off to a New Year for sure. Or perhaps it was a Christmas present to yourself like Trisha9054? If so, COOL. MNMama, an open heart guides us all to our life path. Hopeless73 guess what? Life is anything but hopeless. Sorry you are in the throes of divorce. Reach out often. We're here. dairytech, I agree that footing in life comes in time...and after we center within and take the wheel. Yougosmap, chin up. You are about to create an incredible life right? We all are here to do that I think. You have every right to be here and be happy. Our life purpose is to simply be happy. Let's do it. Tobywinn, you made me laugh. If a suitor wants my cookies or what I have to offer. Too funny. Thanks for that perspective. I do have something of value. ME. Kamari, yes sheep in wolves clothing are the worst. There are sheep, wolves, and shepherds. The sheep in wolf's clothing are the most manipulative of all. I'm learning to be a shepard now and guide myself and my "peeps" best I can protected from the damn wolves. BTW, I actually love real wolves...I visit the wilderness regularly. Have to say, I trust the animal wolf far more than the man-wolf type. Ha. And Missed12932, your encouragement that there is still dating at 70 and 80 is refreshing. Do we ever really get out of high school? HA. I have an 80 year old neighbor who just broke up with his 18 month long woman friend and is distraught. He is seeking a new partner...doesn't like to be alone. Not me of course but I realized that we seek connections our whole lives. Doesn't have to be marriage and that is what I'm figuring out. And Kathi, well, we "chat" regularly already and that's been huge for me. Thanks everyone. I love this group.

So glad you are feeling welcomed here, BCFG! This site and especially this group has made all the difference for me. Yes, "hopeless: was the only name I could identify with when I signed up - will have to consider changing my screen name to something that defines more of how I feel these days.... perhaps "Survivor" or "Hopeful".

My STBX was indeed a wolf in sheep's clothing.......I love the analogy and will think of him that way from now on. Heehee! Just like the cartoon with the sneaky wolf coming up on the poor unsuspecting sheep. But now my blinders are off and I can only state how grateful I am that I was able to recognize him for what he really was before I was devoured!

I am very fulfilled with my rediscovered connection to myself and with the friends I have made and continue to make on DS. And I count you as one of those! You add a lot to our group! Thank you!

BCFG,
Welcome to the group! You truly have an amazing attitude. I still have good days & bad days. Trying to stay focused on the "new life", just not sure where or how that will be at this point. Still taking one day at a time.
You will receive all of the support that you will need from these wonderful people. We all have different experiences & perspectives yet all are helpful in healing.
You have been through so much already & are a great inspiration to us. Welcome aboard, TCB