Divorce after Twenty years together Community Group
I want to start something for those of us that were married for a long long time. I think that we face a little different issues than those who were dating for a few years or even married for shorter period of time. Being married for so long we have older children some have grandkids dealing with teenagers and their reaction to the divorice empty nesters dating after 40...
I took my wedding rings off shortly after dickhead told me he didn't love me anymore and wanted a new life. Of course, after 22 years my hands were feeling naked so I've been on a mission somewhat looking at different rings. I bought an inexpensive ring a couple of weeks ago that is Navajo made and southwest in nature for my right hand. I was looking for something tuquoise and silver for my left hand but couldn't find anything I liked.
I happened to be in Macys yesterday and was checking out their fine jewlrey - something I'm not typically attracted to. However, there was a beautiful ring I tried on that was sterling silver with black diamond chips swirled around a pearl in the middle. When she said $1100 I didn't hang around. Well I obsessed over this ring the rest of the day and into the night. I couldn't think of anything more "unwedding" like and that appealed to me. I also happen to love pearls.
I went back today and it turns out it was 50% off then another 20% off if I used my Macys card and I get a 12 month plan to pay it off with no interest. I decided to throw in some black onyx earrings I fell in love with too. So, $532 total with monthly payments of $44. Impulsive? yes, should I be saving my money? of course. But for some reason this ring is priceless to me. It's a statement to myself that I'm moving on. It's something tangible that I can look at and remind myself that I'm strong and will not only survive but thrive!
I've never bought any jewlrey that cost more than a few dollars, so even if it was foolish I kind of feel like a princess, even if it's just for a day.
I happened to be in Macys yesterday and was checking out their fine jewlrey - something I'm not typically attracted to. However, there was a beautiful ring I tried on that was sterling silver with black diamond chips swirled around a pearl in the middle. When she said $1100 I didn't hang around. Well I obsessed over this ring the rest of the day and into the night. I couldn't think of anything more "unwedding" like and that appealed to me. I also happen to love pearls.
I went back today and it turns out it was 50% off then another 20% off if I used my Macys card and I get a 12 month plan to pay it off with no interest. I decided to throw in some black onyx earrings I fell in love with too. So, $532 total with monthly payments of $44. Impulsive? yes, should I be saving my money? of course. But for some reason this ring is priceless to me. It's a statement to myself that I'm moving on. It's something tangible that I can look at and remind myself that I'm strong and will not only survive but thrive!
I've never bought any jewlrey that cost more than a few dollars, so even if it was foolish I kind of feel like a princess, even if it's just for a day.
I did the same thing. I bought a beautiful pave ring about five months after he left. I took our wedding rings and sold it, took the money and then some and bought this. I love this ring. It has no sentimental value relating to the marriage, so it reminds me every day of how it is just mine.
Call me weird, but I bought a brand-new SADDLE as my "divorce gift" to myself. I can't wear it on my finger, but it's beautiful and really kind to my tush! Served to soothe the pain in my a$$ I had for 30 years LOL.