Divorce after Twenty years together Community Group

I want to start something for those of us that were married for a long long time. I think that we face a little different issues than those who were dating for a few years or even married for shorter period of time. Being married for so long we have older children some have grandkids dealing with teenagers and their reaction to the divorice empty nesters dating after 40...

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Timeman
Timeman

Just want to say hello everyone.


I still check in every now and then.  I still log into my journal .Mostly when I'm feeling low .I'm going along.  Feel pretty good mentally and physically.  I still have my little moments thinking of the past, but they don't last long. .......So , I'm alright . I think my biggest problem is putting my foot down with new wife on her not going to change me. Her not getting angry when I go see my Grandchildren....and son. She's really great, but we are different in many ways and I'm trying to deal with that,  but we go out every week end dancing and we have a good time.  Soooooooo , I'm trying ..... She just has to realize that I'm not going to change who I am .  


My GS autoimmune problem is still there . Sometimes  worst then other times. I think. my son has taken him to every doctor that there is .  They all don't have any answers. Try this..Try that.... I just hope that it doesn't get worst ..  it's a tirreble desease ......With no cure.....Hurts me much to see him that way., We're still praying.....Still seeing doctors.oh well. !


Still working on my credit so we can get a house somewhere. I just have a couple little things to clear up. One was that I do signed for a loan for my brother and that has come  back to haunt me because he stopped paying and they came after me.  I negotiated a settlement with the collection agency and waiting for release papers to be emailed to me. . That's about what's holding my credit rating up right now. Ya.. I was a good guy and now years later I pay for it. ..But,.  It's being taken care of and hope to be in New house this year......Hopefully soon. 


Soooooooo, that's my life my freinds........ 


PS . Still will get out of here for the cold winter.....Still haven't given up my dream about a camper.   


Take care... I wish everyone well...And God Bless. 


Bob

LisaMariB
LisaMariB
Timeman - I love how open and honest you are about everything. Someone who challenges you to be with family doesn't sound like a healthy thing. Im sure she means well and she probably has struggles too. But, you have someone. The material things such as the camper and another house will come. God will provide. It seems he has his own timeline and not ours. I struggle with finding someone again and having to face all the differences. I'm not ready and maybe I won't get to that point and i'm ok with that. I love how you still go dancing and hopefully romancing. And, prayers to your GS for what he's going through. I know 2 people going through autoimmune issues also. They are both working on diets to change things, such as gluten free and ketogenic. They really have worked for them. Please keep us posted. Big hugs.
Atpeacemary
Atpeacemary
Hugs my friend. You sound better. I hope and pray that your grandson gets better. You have every right to see your grandkids and family. She will just have to accept it. Please look after yourself. Big hugs
refurb
refurb
just keep telling them wife that you being a father & grandfather in more than just a title is part of what makes you who you are, makes you the best you & and that best you is who you give to her
dairytech
dairytech
Very well said refurb!
Timeman
Timeman
Thanks everyone. Im really trying to make this marriage work. She hasmore good qualities then bad. If she can control the family thing. Thats a big sore spot for me. I just dont and eont put up with that. Maybe we both have to learn each others faults . im sure ...I Got mine. Ha ha . ok. My Grand son . was doing good therr for a while , but my son says it was acting up all last week. They took him to that specIal blood test for different vitamins . lack of or to much. They made up a special vitamin (pill) based on the findings. We're hoping and praying that helps him. LisamariB, thannks for lrting me know about youur friends that have the immune pro lem. Thats encouraging whay you said. Ill tell my son that tomorrow. STUPID DESEASE. ....WISH IT WOULDGO AWAY.. Oh well.. Tonight im was thinking about my brother who just died. I keep thinking about texting him....... Then it hits me.. He was a good big brother....miss him. But , my friends its all that not gloomy. Good doctors report....im doing good . my MRI for that small brain tumor came back . negative. No change and no growth. Yippy ! This Friday i go for my annual ultra sound test on my arteris...blicked arteris that is... Both legs 70 % right leg and 40% left leg. I still can get around pretty good . if it gets worst they can try to put a stint in . im not worried about any of that stuf....what will be ...will be. In many..many ways...God has been good to me ever since my x left me. Im thankfull for that. Now, if my grandson could get better.... Ill be so thankfull. too. I want to tell everyone that my journals are not being posted.. Its really all screwed up. What a shame.....it (D&S) was working so good before. Take care my friends....smile when you can
Love to all .. Bob
Timeman
Timeman
Im looking at my last post. Sorry it was so long. . bob
LisaMariB
LisaMariB
Sorry to hear about your brother, yet God's blessed you with other good news with your health. I'm so glad you gave us an update. I'll continue praying for your grandson and you, your health, and your marriage. On another note, my daughter just got her dad's invitation to the wedding in the mail today. I was pretty good about it. Very first word was mis-spelled. haha... so she's not perfect!
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