I just wanted to check in to see who is still here. We lost so much when they changed the format. Everyone kind of gave up trying to maintain our precious relationships. All is well in my life. I lost my job to robots about 3 years ago and its turned out to be the best thing that ever happened to me. I had to reinvent myself. I started a cleaning company and it took off like crazy and Im doing really well. From thinking my life was over to great sucess..go figure. I have a new man in my life..its my precous grandson. He lives next door to me and he is my heart and joy. He will be 2 in Sept.
My ex is a distant past. He has a girlfriend that is 2 years younger than our daughter...lol..geeze eh! He lives 3 blocks from me and I never see him and he has nothing to do with our daughter or grandson..shameful. We all are so much better off.
Ive managed to do a lot of travelling. Ive been to Costa Rica, Indonesia and last year I went to Iceland and then Mexico to attend my sons wedding. 2 trips in one year..yay! I had a wonderful time in Mexico and would go back anytime..Costa Rica..not so much.
I wanted to say..time does really help. It took me 10 years to get over my marrage..divorced twice to the same man. They say everyone heals at their own pace..I believe that to be true..it just took me longer than most. I think overcoming divorce and all the emotional crap that comes with it was the hardest thing I've dealt with to date. The best advise I can give is 1. go dark, do not engage unless children are involved. If you must comunicate do it through email or legal avenues. 2. Make your financial survival plan..get it in writing..seek professional advise and follow through. 3. Watch your self chatter. If youve been gaslighted and lied to you can feel really crappy. One of the best tricks is to change your thinking. If you find yourself putting you down, calling yourself stupid etc..stop..chang those words into loving self talk..it takes time and effort but you will be shocked how often we do this especially if you were abused verbally during the marriage and breakdown of the marriage. 4. Just know in your heart there is more out there and this is your opertunity to re write your history book. Its actually an exciting time..perspective right? You get to reinvent you!
I think of you all often and hope all are well. I hope youve found your place in your new life and have comfort and peace. I mean really..isnt that what we all want out of life..especially at this stage in the game of life.
"Darling," whispered a frail little husband from his chair."I'm very sick, would you please call me a vet?""A vet? Why do you want a vet and not a medical doctor?" asked his wife.The husband replied, "Because I work like a horse, live like a dog and have to sleep with a silly cow!"
Fred gets home late one night and his wife, Linda, says, "Where in the hell have you been?""I was out getting a tattoo," Fred replied."A tattoo?" she frowned. "What kind of tattoo did you get?""I got a hundred dollar bill tattooed on my privates," he said proudly."What the hell were you thinking?" she said, shaking her head in disdain."Why on earth would an accountant get a hundred dollar bill...